John William Tuohy lives in Washington DC

All of you

Almost everyone has a less than perfect version of themselves, a self-created rendering that sees only the flaws in our character, a side of us that is fed with our insecurities and grasped under the misunderstanding that no one will love us if they saw our imperfections so we hide that side of ourselves…..well don’t do that.

 You are who you are, flaws and bumps and failings, you are who you are. Allow someone to see all of you and give them the chance to accept all of you. It’s their decision, not yours. 

The writer Marc Hack said it best when he said that to believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window and illuminating a dark room.

and remember to laugh................

Here and now

I’ve read that the past doesn’t make us better but it can make us bitter and the advice I read almost everywhere  supports the view, almost everyone says “Forget the past” but what they fail to mention is that for most of us it takes an enormous effort of the mind and the heart to free ourselves past and an even bigger effort to live only in the present.     


“We are all broken, that’s how the light gets in.” 
                                                             Ernest Hemingway

And now a word from good old friend Henry David Thoreau

“It’s not what you look at that matters,
 it’s what you see.  

If a writer...........

 “If a writer falls in love with you,
 you can never die.”

Notoriously undisciplined and unmoral

“Why are those who are notoriously undisciplined and unmoral also most contemptuous of religion and morality? They are trying to solace their own unhappy lives by pulling the happy down to their own abysmal depths.”  Fulton J. Sheen

Be natural

“Be natural my children. For the writer that is natural has fulfilled all the rules of art.”—  Charles Dickens


“There are years that ask questions and years that answer.”            
                                                                    Zora Neale Hurston, Their Eyes Were Watching God

I have seen and I know that people can be beautiful

“I have seen and I know that people can be beautiful and happy without losing the ability to live on Earth. I will not and cannot believe that evil is the normal condition of mankind.”—                                                                                                                            Fyodor Dostoevsky