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John William Tuohy lives in Washington DC

Homework, 1966, I'm actually left handed but the photo was reversed. My father took this shot.


Me in about 1978 when I first moved to Washington. This picture was taken at Fort Washington, just outside of DC on the Potomac


Me (right with tie) a guy I used to work with in the corporate world named Maury Hersh and I have no idea who that kid is or why he was in our office


Mary, on a trip through central Virginia one weekend



Ever feel this way?


Life lessons



Having a good heart, being kind, being noble is not a weakness, especially in a world that is so often none of those things and places no value on those things. It takes courage to be all of those things. Be courageous. be an optimist.   

Its all a matter of perception.....and that applies to everything in the world


Magic


We don't see magic anymore because we stopped looking for it. How sad is that?


Life lesson


Spend time alone. It's good for you. It's healthy for your state of mind and to learn to be alone is a good discipline to hone because it will help you define yourself and with that, you'll never allow yourself to be defined by someone else.


What love is....................





Love is honesty.
Love is . . . Being honest with yourself at all times, Being honest with the other person at all times, Telling, listening, respecting the truth, And never pretending.

Love is understanding.
Love is . . . An understanding so complete that you feel as if you are a part of the other person, Accepting the other person just the way they are, And not trying to change them to be something else.

Love is the most important thing in the world. Hate, we should remove from the dictionary. John Wooden

Love is freedon
Love is . . . The freedom to pursue your own desires while sharing your experiences with the other person, The growth of one individual alongside of and together with the growth of another individual.

Love is excitement
Love is . . . The excitement of planning things together, The excitement of doing things together.

Love is patient
Love is being patient with each other's needs and desires.

The more I think about it, the more I realize there is nothing more artistic than to love others. Vincent Van Gogh

Love is acceptance
What is love but acceptance of the other, whatever he is.  Anaïs Nin

Love is like a fever which comes and goes quite independently of the will. … there are no age limits for love. Stendhal

“There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”  C. S. Lewis, The Four Loves

Nothing is mysterious, no human relation. Except love. Susan Sontag

Love is kind of like when you see a fog in the morning, when you wake up before the sun comes out. It’s just a little while, and then it burns away… Love is a fog that burns with the first daylight of reality. Charles Bukowski

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind. Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night’s Dream

Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness. Bertrand Russell, The Conquest of Happiness

What is hell? I maintain that it is the suffering of being unable to love. Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

People sometimes say that you must believe in feelings deep inside, otherwise you’d never be confident of things like ‘My wife loves me’. But this is a bad argument. There can be plenty of evidence that somebody loves you. All through the day when you are with somebody who loves you, you see and hear lots of little tidbits of evidence, and they all add up. It isn’t purely inside feeling, like the feeling that priests call revelation. There are outside things to back up the inside feeling: looks in the eye, tender notes in the voice, little favors and kindnesses; this is all real evidence. Evolutionary biologist Richard Dawkins in a letter to his ten-year-old daughter explaining the importance of evidence in science and in life

Love is untamed
Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused. Paulo Coelho The Zahir: A Novel of Obsession

Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up. James Baldwin, The Price of the Ticket


Anyone who falls in love is searching for the missing pieces of themselves. So anyone who’s in love gets sad when they think of their lover. It’s like stepping back inside a room you have fond memories of, one you haven’t seen in a long time. Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore.


What Love is............


Love Is……….

 


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.  Corinthians 13:4-13



Love gives strength. Love gives courage.
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. Lao Tzu

Love is one.
Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. Aristotle


Love is life.
Where there is love there is life. Mahatma Gandhi

Love is self assurance.
Love me and the world is mine.  David Reed

Love knows
Love knows no answer for it does not question.  Author Unknown

Love comes from the heart
Sometimes we make love with our eyes.  Sometimes we make love with our hands.  Sometimes we make love with our bodies.  Always we make love with our hearts.  Author Unknown

Loves cleanses
Let love flow so that it cleanses the world. Then man can live in peace, instead of the state of turmoil he has created through his past ways of life, with all those material interests and earthly ambitions. Sai Baba

Love is enduring
Passion is momentary; love is enduring.John Wooden

Love humbles
Whoever loves becomes humble. Those who love have, so to speak, pawned a part of their narcissism. Sigmund Freud
           
Love is pleasurable
 The greatest pleasure of life is love. Euripides
           
Love is happiness
Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness. Oliver Wendell Holmes
           
Love equalizes
Where love rules, there is no will to power; and where power predominates, there love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other. Carl Jung

Love needs
Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted. Like a lamp, it needs to be fed out of the oil of another's heart, or its flame burns low. Henry Ward Beecher
       
 Loves believes
Who so loves believes the impossible. Elizabeth Barrett Browning
           
 Love is endless
Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold. Zelda Fitzgerald

Love defines us
Tell me who admires and loves you, and I will tell you who you are. Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Love is involved
If you wished to be loved, love. Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Love is recognition
Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition. Alexander

Love is a risk
Love means to commit yourself without guarantee. Anne Campbell

Love Creates
Love always creates, it never destroys. In this lie's man's only promise. Leo Buscaglia
           
Love is self-sacrifice
Loyalty and devotion lead to bravery. Bravery leads to the spirit of self-sacrifice. The spirit of self-sacrifice creates trust in the power of love. Morihei Ueshiba

Love is beauty
Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul. Saint Augustine
           
Love is passion
 Let the beauty of what you love be what you do. Rumi

Love is giving
You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. Robert Louis Stevenson
           
A Mother’s Love
The love of a mother is the veil of a softer light between the heart and the heavenly Father. Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Love is kindness

A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love. Saint Basil 

On faith and friendship


“I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.” ― C.S. Lewis

“Some people don't understand the promises they're making when they make them," I said. "Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That's what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.” ― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars



 
“Faithless is he that says farewell when the road darkens.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring 

“All the world is made of faith, and trust, and pixie dust.” ― J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan 

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” ― Anonymous, Holy Bible: King James Version 

“God will not look you over for medals, degrees or diplomas but for scars.” ― Elbert Hubbard

“Faith is not the belief that God will do what you want. It is the belief that God will do what is right.” ― Max Lucado, He Still Moves Stones 

 “Sometimes beautiful things come into our lives out of nowhere. We can't always understand them, but we have to trust in them. I know you want to question everything, but sometimes it pays to just have a little faith.” ― Lauren Kate, Torment 

 “I am trying here to prevent anyone saying the really foolish thing that people often say about Him: I’m ready to accept Jesus as a great moral teacher, but I don’t accept his claim to be God. That is the one thing we must not say. A man who was merely a man and said the sort of things Jesus said would not be a great moral teacher. He would either be a lunatic — on the level with the man who says he is a poached egg — or else he would be the Devil of Hell. You must make your choice. Either this man was, and is, the Son of God, or else a madman or something worse. You can shut him up for a fool, you can spit at him and kill him as a demon or you can fall at his feet and call him Lord and God, but let us not come with any patronizing nonsense about his being a great human teacher. He has not left that open to us. He did not intend to.” ― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity 

 “Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.” ― Corrie ten Boom

 “The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.” ― Søren Kierkegaard

“And still, after all this time, the Sun has never said to the Earth,
"You owe me."
Look what happens with love like that.
It lights up the sky.”
― Hafez

 “You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

 “I have come to accept the feeling of not knowing where I am going. And I have trained myself to love it. Because it is only when we are suspended in mid-air with no landing in sight, that we force our wings to unravel and alas begin our flight. And as we fly, we still may not know where we are going to. But the miracle is in the unfolding of the wings. You may not know where you're going, but you know that so long as you spread your wings, the winds will carry you.” ― C. JoyBell

“Sometimes God allows what he hates to accomplish what he loves.” ― Joni Eareckson Tada, The God I Love 

“None of us knows what might happen even the next minute, yet still we go forward. Because we trust. Because we have Faith.” ― Paulo Coelho, Brida 
“I'm about to make a wild, extreme and severe relationship rule: the word busy is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes. The word "busy" is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact in every silo you uncover, all you're going to find is a man who didn't care enough to call. Remember men are never to busy to get what they want.” ― Greg Behrendt

 “Do not be afraid; our fate
Cannot be taken from us; it is a gift.”
― Dante Alighieri, Inferno 

“I know now, Lord, why you utter no answer. You are yourself the answer. Before your face questions die away. What other answer would suffice?” ― C.S. Lewis

“The reason birds can fly and we can't is simply because they have perfect faith, for to have faith is to have wings.” ― J.M. Barrie, The Little White Bird 

“I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one's head pointed toward the sun, one's feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.” ― Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom: Autobiography of Nelson Mandela 

“What was love, really? Flowers, chocolate, and poetry? Or was it something else? Was it being able to finish someone's jokes? Was it having absolute faith that someone was there at your back? Was it knowing someone so well that they instantly understood why you did the things you did—and shared those same beliefs?” ― Richelle Mead, Last Sacrifice 

“A star falls from the sky and into your hands. Then it seeps through your veins and swims inside your blood and becomes every part of you. And then you have to put it back into the sky. And it's the most painful thing you'll ever have to do and that you've ever done. But what's yours is yours. Whether it’s up in the sky or here in your hands. And one day, it'll fall from the sky and hit you in the head real hard and that time, you won't have to put it back in the sky again.” ― C. JoyBell C.

“In this hour, I do not believe that any darkness will endure.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King 

 “This is what the past is for! Every experience God gives us, every person He puts in our lives is the perfect preparation for the future that only He can see.” ― Corrie ten Boom, The Hiding Place 

 “Well, it's true that I have been hurt in my life. Quite a bit. But it's also true that I have loved, and been loved. and that carries a weight of its own. A greater weight, in my opinion. It's like that pie chart we talked about earlier. in the end, I'll look back on my life and see that the greatest piece of it was love. The problems, the divorces, the sadness... those will be there too, but just smaller slivers, tiny pieces.” ― Sarah Dessen, This Lullaby


“I think if I've learned anything about friendship, it's to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don't walk away, don't be distracted, don't be too busy or tired, don't take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.” ― Jon Katz 



Life lesson


Try as you might, YOU CAN NOT make people like you. You just can't. No matter how decent or kind you are.

Try as you might, YOU CAN NOT make people love you. You just can't. No matter how wonderful and beautiful you are.

Try as you might, YOU CAN NOT make people be nice to you. You just can't. No matter how nice a person you are.

Try as you might, YOU CAN NOT make people accept you. You just can't. No matter how accepting you are of them.

This is WHAT YOU CAN DO. You can stay decent and kind, wonderful and beautiful, nice and accepting and you can love yourself and accept everything, and I do mean everything, about you. You have that power. 


Life lesson



The perfect friendship, the perfect marriage, the perfect relationship. All three are grounded by highly imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other, that's all it is. Try it. 


Yeah!


Life lesson


Do the thing you want to do. Paint that picture, write that novel, fall in love, sing. Do the thing that makes you happy while you have the blessing of time to do it, because one day, sooner than you know, there will not be anytime left.   


Life lesson


Here's the difference between a loser and a successful person.The loser blames. They blame everybody and everything. They hate and they complain. The successful human being encourages, they inspire and seek inspiration. They motivate themselves and others to try just a little bit harder. See the difference? Good, now go and be a successful person. 




Life lesson



If you really want the unresolved past to leave your life, look it in the face, review the pain and humiliation it caused you. Give it a good long look. It's a hard thing to do because it's disturbing and it's painful. When you have looked at it long enough, say this out loud "There is nothing I can do to change this because I can not change the past. It's over. This is over I'm done with it" and then be done with it   



Life lesson


Take a break from your troubles, your unhappiness and your woes. Stop talking about them for seven days. It's difficult to do because whining is an addiction. So instead, during those seven days, talk about all that is good and correct and joyful in your life. Watch the difference it makes to almost everything around you.  

I'll bet you they still broke in anyway


Me too.


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