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John William Tuohy lives in Washington DC
Here's a sentence I read today, it applies to this site and me and you my readers..........
EVEN IF WE CAN'T BE TOGETHER IN THE END, I'M GLAD THAT YOU WERE A PART OF MY LIFE
......and remember too laugh!
Here, here's a rabbit playing a tune on rabbit sized piano...where else you gonna find classy stuff like this I asks ya?
Christianity says the same thing (I'm not splitting hairs, it matters) but the message is true so be happy in that....
on the lighter side, remember to laugh...here, here's some bears skipping rope ...enjoy!
As We Get Older, Friendships, Creativity and Satisfaction With Life Can Flourish
By
Anne Tergesen
Everyone knows that as we age,
our minds and bodies decline—and life inevitably becomes less satisfying and
enjoyable.
Everyone knows that cognitive
decline is inevitable.
Everyone knows that as we get
older, we become less productive at work.
Everyone, it seems, is wrong.
Contrary to the stereotype of
later life as a time of loneliness, depression and decline, a growing body of
scientific research shows that, in many ways, life gets better as we get older.
“The story used to be that
satisfaction with life went downhill, but the remarkable thing that researchers
are finding is that doesn’t seem to be the case,” says Timothy Salthouse, a
professor of psychology at the University of Virginia.
In fact, a growing body of
evidence indicates that our moods and overall sense of well-being improve with
age. Friendships tend to grow more intimate, too, as older adults prioritize
what matters most to them, says Karen Fingerman, a professor of human development
and family sciences at the University of Texas at Austin.
Other academics have found that
knowledge and certain types of intelligence continue to develop in ways that
can even offset age-related declines in the brain’s ability to process new
information and reason abstractly. Expertise deepens, which can enhance
productivity and creativity. Some go so far as to say that wisdom—defined, in
part, as the ability to resolve conflicts by seeing problems from multiple
perspectives—flourishes.
To be sure, growing older has
its share of challenges. Some people don’t age as well as others. And
especially at advanced ages, chronic conditions including diabetes,
hypertension and dementia become increasingly common and can take a toll on
mental, as well as physical, health.
Still, those who fall into the
“stereotype of being depressed, cranky, irritable and obsessed with their
alimentary canal” constitute “no more than 10% of the older population,” says
Paul Costa, a scientist emeritus at the National Institutes of Health, who for
more than three decades directed the personality program of the long-running
Baltimore Longitudinal Study of Aging. “The other 90% of the population isn’t
like that at all,” Dr. Costa says.
Here are six prevalent myths
about aging—along with recent research that dispels common misconceptions.
Myth No. 1: Depression Is More
Prevalent in Old Age
It’s easy to assume that old
age would be a depressing time of life. After all, as health declines and
friends and relatives become disabled and die, it can be hard to maintain a
positive outlook.
But research indicates that
emotional well-being improves until the 70s, when it levels off. Even
centenarians “report overall high levels of well-being,” according to a 2014
study by researchers including Laura Carstensen, director of Stanford
University’s Center on Longevity, which cites a 2006 study by Christoph Rott, a
senior research scientist at Heidelberg University in Germany, among others.
How do researchers measure
well-being? From 1993 to 1995, Stanford scientists distributed beepers to 184
adults, ages 18 to 94. For one week, at five randomly selected times each day,
the researchers paged participants, who filled out questionnaires asking them
to assess—on a scale of one to seven—how much they felt of 19 emotions,
including anger, sadness, amusement, boredom and joy. The researchers repeated
the same exercise five and 10 years later.
Their conclusion: As the
participants aged, their moods—measured by the ratio of positive to negative
emotions—steadily improved.
“Contrary to the popular view
that youth is the best time of life, the peak of emotional life may not occur
until well into the seventh decade,” Prof. Carstensen says.
The study joins others that
conclude that older adults focus on positive rather than negative emotions,
memories and stimuli. In a 2003 study, for example, Prof. Carstensen found that
in contrast to younger adults, older adults presented with an array of happy,
sad and angry faces directed their gazes more often toward the happy ones.
Why the focus on the positive?
As people age, they tend to prioritize emotional meaning and satisfaction,
giving them an incentive to see the good more than the bad, Prof. Carstensen
says.
National data back up the
findings. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 5.5% of adults
age 50 and over said they experienced a major depressive episode in 2012. For
those 26 to 49, the rate was 7.6%, and for ages 18 to 25 it was 8.9%.
While rates of depression in
nursing homes tend to be high, Prof. Fingerman says, “In general, when we look
at older adults, they tend to be happier, less anxious, less angry and tend to
adapt well to their circumstances.”
Myth No. 2: Cognitive Decline
Is Inevitable
As we age, our brains undergo
structural changes. Certain regions, including the prefrontal cortex, shrink.
And the neurons that carry messages become less efficient. As a result,
concentration and memory slip and, around age 30, scores on tests of abstract
reasoning and novel problem-solving begin to decline.
Like an older computer, an
older brain typically takes longer to process and retrieve information from its
crowded memory, says Denise Park, a professor of behavioral and brain sciences
at the University of Texas at Dallas.
But recent discoveries also
indicate that—barring dementia—older adults perform better in the real world
than they do on cognitive tests. “Typical laboratory tasks may systematically
underestimate the true abilities of older adults,” says Lynn Hasher, a
professor of psychology at the University of Toronto and a senior scientist at
the Rotman Research Institute.
To test raw intellectual
prowess, scientists design experiments that “minimize the influence of past
experience” on performance, says Prof. Salthouse in Virginia. The experiments
“tell us what people can do in artificial situations,” he says. But in the real
world, “most of what we do is based on the knowledge we have acquired.” Because
knowledge and experience increase with age, older adults who are tested in
familiar situations show few of the deficits that crop up in laboratory tests,
he says.
Younger adults may also have
advantages in laboratory tests that have nothing to do with their cognitive
skills. For example, because professors often recruit students for their
experiments, some younger participants may be more comfortable in a lab than
older participants, says Prof. Hasher.
Older adults who believe
negative stereotypes about aging can also unwittingly undermine their own
performance on memory tests. In a study published in 2012, scientists at the
Yale School of Public Health and the National Institute on Aging reviewed
memory tests administered to 395 older participants in the Baltimore
Longitudinal Study of Aging, all of whom—at younger ages—had filled out
questionnaires assessing their beliefs in negative stereotypes about aging.
Over a 38-year period, the decline in memory performance for those ages 60 and
over with more negative stereotypes was 30% greater than for those with less
negative views, says Becca Levy, an author of the study and an associate
professor of psychology at the Yale School of Public Health.
The good news: Recent
experiments show that certain activities appear to enhance cognitive function
and perhaps slow age-related cognitive declines. In two studies published
earlier this year, Prof. Park in Dallas tested the memories of 239 adults ages
60 to 90, about one-half of whom spent about 16 hours a week over three months
learning new skills, including how to quilt, use an iPad and take digital
photographs.
Compared with peers who
performed word puzzles or engaged in social activities and other tasks that
required no new skills, those learning new skills “showed greater improvements
in memory, with some also showing improvement in processing speed,” says Prof.
Park, who believes that older adults who learn challenging new skills tap more
diffuse brain circuits and pathways to compensate for age-related deficits.
“Novelty combined with mental challenge
is very important,” she says. “Get out of your comfort zone.”
Some scientists also believe
older adults can make wiser decisions. In a study published in 2010, scientists
asked 247 Midwesterners to read stories about conflicts between individuals and
social groups and predict the outcomes. After transcribing their responses, the
investigators removed participants’ names and ages and asked students who had
received training to rate their responses on the basis of “wisdom”—defined, in
part, as the ability to see problems from multiple perspectives and show
sensitivity to social relationships. The researchers then asked outside
experts—including clergy and professional counselors—to rank a subset of the
responses according to their own definitions of wisdom, a process that largely
confirmed the accuracy of the students’ ratings.
The average age of those with
scores in the top 20% was 65, versus 46 for the remaining 80%, says Igor
Grossmann, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Waterloo
in Ontario.
Myth No. 3: Older Workers Are
Less Productive
Workers 55 or older make up 22%
of the U.S. labor force, up from 12% in 1992. But thanks in part to stereotypes
that portray older workers as less adaptable than their younger colleagues,
they are widely assumed to be less productive.
In fact, the vast majority of
academic studies shows “virtually no relationship between age and job
performance,” says Harvey Sterns, director of the Institute for Life-Span
Development and Gerontology at the University of Akron.
In jobs that require
experience, some studies show that older adults have a performance edge.
Economists at the Max Planck Institute for Social Law and Social Policy, a
nonprofit research organization in Munich, examined the number and severity of
errors 3,800 workers made on a Mercedes-Benz assembly line from 2003 to 2006.
The economists determined that over that four-year period, the older workers
committed slightly fewer severe errors, while the younger workers’ severe error
rates edged up.
“The older workers seemed to
know better how to avoid severe errors,” says Matthias Weiss, the academic
coordinator at the institute.
Myth No. 4: Loneliness Is More
Likely
As people age, their social
circles contract. But that doesn’t mean older adults are lonely.
In fact, several academic
studies indicate that friendships tend to improve with age.
“Older adults typically report
better marriages, more supportive friendships, less conflict with children and
siblings and closer ties with members of their social networks than younger
adults,” says Prof. Fingerman, co-author of a 2004 study that found older
adults have “a higher rate of close ties than younger people” and fewer
“problematic relationships that cause them distress.”
That is also the message of
research that Prof. Carstensen published this year. The researchers asked 184
people they have followed for more than a decade to put their friends and
relatives into three categories: an inner circle, consisting of people they
“feel so close [to] that it would be hard to imagine life without them”; a
middle circle they feel a little less close to “but who are still very
important”; and an outer circle. The researchers also asked the participants
every couple of years to rate—on a scale of one to seven—the intensity of the
positive and negative emotions they felt for each.
The findings: Until about age
50, most people add to their social networks. After that, they eliminate people
they feel less close to and maximize interactions with “close partners who are
more emotionally satisfying,” says Prof. Carstensen.
Over time, the participants
also assigned their networks more positive ratings. “Their loved ones seem to
mean more than ever, and that is protective against loneliness,” says Prof.
Carstensen. While this doesn’t mean loneliness isn’t a problem for some older
people, she adds, research indicates that, on average, older adults are less
lonely than young people.
Myth No. 5: Creativity Declines
With Age
Creativity has long been seen
as the province of the young. (Think: Lennon and McCartney, Jobs and Wozniak.)
But academic studies that date
as far back as the 19th century pinpoint midlife as the time when artists and
scholars are most prolific. Dean Keith Simonton, a professor of psychology at
the University of California, Davis, says creativity tends to peak earlier in
fields such as pure mathematics and theoretical physics, where breakthroughs
typically hinge on problem-solving skills that are sharpest in one’s 20s. In
fields that require accumulated knowledge, creative peaks typically occur
later. Historians and philosophers, for example, “may reach their peak output
when they are in their 60s,” he says.
In recent years, an economist
has put forth a theory of creative late bloomers. David Galenson, a professor
at the University of Chicago, analyzed the ages at which some 300 famous
artists, poets and novelists produced their most valuable works. (For the
artwork, he used auction prices and the number of times specific works appeared
in text books. For literary works, he counted the words devoted to them in
scholarly monographs.)
His conclusion: Creative genius
clusters into two categories: conceptual artists, who tend to do their best
work in their 20s and 30s, and experimental artists, who often need a few more
decades to reach full potential. Conceptual artists work from imagination, an
area where the young have an advantage because they tend to be more open to
radical new ideas, Prof. Galenson says. Experimental artists improve with
experience. They take years to perfect their style and knowledge of their
subjects.
People who are creative in
older age aren’t anomalies, he says. Mark Twain, Paul Cézanne, Frank Lloyd
Wright, Robert Frost and Virginia Woolf are just a few of the artists “who did
their greatest work in their 40s, 50s and 60s. These artists rely on wisdom,
which increases with age.”
Myth No. 6: More Exercise Is
Better
When it comes to improving
health and longevity, exercise is key. But a growing number of studies show
that more exercise may not always be better.
“You get to a point of
diminishing returns,” says James O’Keefe, a professor of medicine at the
University of Missouri-Kansas City.
In a study to be published this
month, Dr. O’Keefe and co-authors tracked 1,098 joggers and 3,950 non-joggers
from 2001 to 2013; all were part of the Copenhagen City Heart Study, under way
since 1976. Overall, the runners in the Copenhagen study lived longer than the
non-runners: 6.2 years longer for the men, and 5.6 years longer for the women.
But the new study discovered
that those who ran more than four hours a week at a fast pace—of 7 miles per
hour or more—lost much, if not all, of the longevity benefits.
The group that saw the biggest
improvements? Those who jogged from one to 2.4 hours weekly at 5 to 7 mph and
took at least two days off from vigorous exercise per week.
Other studies have come to
similar conclusions. In research published this year, scientists at
institutions including Iowa State University found that the death rate for
runners is 30% to 45% below that for non-runners. But the mortality benefits
were similar for all runners, even those who ran five to 10 minutes a day at
speeds of 6 mph or less. “Fairly modest doses of running provided benefits as
great as…a lot of running,” says Russell Pate, an author of the study and
professor at the University of South Carolina.
Dr. O’Keefe believes long-term
strenuous endurance exercise may cause “overuse injury” to the heart. His
recommendation: Stick to a moderate cardiovascular workout of no more than 30
miles a week or 50 to 60 minutes of vigorous exercise a day, and take at least
one day off each week. “You don’t need to run a marathon,” he says.
Ms. Tergesen is a Wall Street
Journal staff reporter in New York. She can be reached at encore@wsj.com.
The world is kinder than we think it is
Young girls using allowance money to help homeless in Washington
2 young girls in
Vancouver, Washington are doing their part to help the homeless.
Rylee McCune/Helps
Homeless: "Each time we do it, it's going to get bigger and bigger."
Nine-year-old
Rylee McCune and her cousin eleven-year-old Infinity White are not your average
kids.
Rylee says,
"I like feel bad for them. They're like really cold and probably
hungry."
On this cold
night instead of staying cozy at home they hit the streets.
Their goal to help
some of Vancouver’s homeless.
Rylee says,
"We saw a whole bunch of cold people and we wanted to give them
something."
The girls saved up
their allowance and put together a list.
They bought what
they needed with their own money.
Jeri
Bonham/Rylee's Mother: "They've just kind of been putting it in a little
box. We had $137 yesterday and that's how we got this stuff."
They made the trip
to downtown Vancouver and it didn't take long to find some people to help.
Jeri says,
"It melts my heart. It really does. They're good kids."
Christian
Pepple/Homeless: "It's not often that you see young folks out there
looking to do good and help out other people in life."
The girls say
they'll be back out again tomorrow.
Rylee says,
"It's really fun."
There is great decency in the world if you look for it
The
Smith family of Winterport, Maine, was watching a video with their
three-year-old daughter Ariana recently when on the screen appeared a balding
little girl who was laying sick in a hospital bed.
Ariana
wanted to know what was wrong with the girl in the video, according to an ABC
News report, and Josh and Crystal Smith explained how some medicine can make
people lose their hair.
“Without
a second thought, Ariana said ‘Oh, well she can have some of my hair,’” Josh
Smith told ABC News. “That’s when my wife clued me in that they have these
organizations where we could donate it.”
The
family found “Locks of Love,” a charity that donates hair to children with
medical hair loss, and a week later, Ariana had 10 inches of her hair cut to
donate to the charity.
“It
was her first haircut,” Josh Smith told ABC News. “She could be so selfless
like that. Her first reaction is ‘How about I give up something that I have so
a little girl can feel pretty’.”
The LLR: Speed reading
The LLR: Speed reading: I took a speed reading course and read War and Peace in twenty minutes. It involves RussiPublish Posta. - Woody Allen
Merely in disguise
“Another belief of mine; that everyone my age is
an adult, whereas I am merely in disguise.”Margaret
Atwood, Cat’s Eye
Love takes time
We learn by actions and practice.
We learn to read by reading, we learn patience by being patient and we learn to
love others by practicing love. To love others is an effort, a concerted effort
that takes time but love will never work for us completely if we don’t practice
it. So don’t give up on love, don't ever stop looking for it because if you do, you'll never get to practice it.
Goals
“What you get by achieving your
goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Henry
David Thoreau.
.........and this guys goal is escape
1 Peter 4:8
"Have intense and
unfailing love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins." -1
Peter 4:8”
You gotta love Emerson
“Enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success.
When you do a thing, do it with your might."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
How come the Nuns I had in school were nothing at all like this Nun?
“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come.
We have only
today. Let us begin.”— Mother Teresa
Less complicated
The less you worry about what people think,
the less complicated your life becomes.
I don't know if I agree with this in total but it's worth considering
“She does not show herself, and
therefore is apparent. She does not affirm herself, and therefore is
acknowledged. She does not boast and therefore has merit. She does not strive
and therefore is successful. It is exactly because she does not contend, that
nobody can contend with her.” Lao Tzu
and remember to laugh
How To Kill A Leprechaun
Best advice I ever took
“Don’t jump to conclusions,
there may be a perfectly good explanation for what you just saw. –Proverbs
25:8”
All of you
Almost everyone has a less than
perfect version of themselves, a self-created rendering that sees only the
flaws in our character, a side of us that is fed with our insecurities and
grasped under the misunderstanding that no one will love us if they saw our imperfections
so we hide that side of ourselves…..well don’t do that.
You are who you are,
flaws and bumps and failings, you are who you are. Allow someone to see all of
you and give them the chance to accept all of you. It’s their decision, not
yours.
The writer Marc Hack said it best
when he said that to believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are
broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than
perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window
and illuminating a dark room.
and remember to laugh................
Here and now
I’ve read that the past doesn’t
make us better but it can make us bitter and the advice I read almost
everywhere supports the view, almost
everyone says “Forget the past” but what they fail to mention is that for most
of us it takes an enormous effort of the mind and the heart to free ourselves past
and an even bigger effort to live only in the present.
And now a word from good old friend Henry David Thoreau
“It’s not what you look at that
matters,
it’s what you see.
Notoriously undisciplined and unmoral
“Why are those who are
notoriously undisciplined and unmoral also most contemptuous of religion and
morality? They are trying to solace their own unhappy lives by pulling the
happy down to their own abysmal depths.” Fulton
J. Sheen
Be natural
“Be natural my children. For
the writer that is natural has fulfilled all the rules of art.”— Charles Dickens
True
“There are years that ask questions and years that answer.”
Zora
Neale Hurston, Their Eyes Were Watching God
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I have seen and I know that people can be beautiful
“I have seen and I know that people can be beautiful and
happy without losing the ability to live on Earth. I will not and cannot
believe that evil is the normal condition of mankind.”— Fyodor Dostoevsky
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