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John William Tuohy lives in Washington DC

Henry David Thoreau



On Advice
"I have lived some thirty-odd years on this planet, and I have yet to hear the first syllable of valuable or even earnest advice from my seniors."
"Aim above morality. Be not simply good, be good for something."
 "His face, once seen, could not be forgotten. The features were quite marked: the nose aquiline or very Roman, like one of the portraits of Caesar (more like a beak, as was said); large overhanging brows above the deepest set blue eyes that could be seen, in certain lights, and in others gray, — eyes expressive of all shades of feeling, but never weak or near-sighted; the forehead not unusually broad or high, full of concentrated energy and purpose; the mouth with prominent lips, pursed up with meaning and thought when silent, and giving out when open with the most varied and unusual instructive sayings."  From Thoreau's friend Ellery Channing, in Thoreau, the Poet-Naturalist.

On Ability
"He is the best sailor who can steer within fewest points of the wind, and exact a motive power out of the greatest obstacles."
"I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor."

On action
"We do not learn by inference and deduction and the application of mathematics to philosophy, but by direct intercourse and sympathy."
"I did not wish to take a cabin passage, but rather to go before the mast and on the deck of the world, for there I could best see the moonlight amid the mountains. I do not wish to go below now."

 On adulthood
"We seem but to linger in manhood to tell the dreams of our childhood and they vanish out of memory ere we learn the language."

On age and aging
"As for the pyramids, there is nothing to wonder at in them so much as the fact that so many men could be found degraded enough to spend their lives constructing a tomb for some ambitious booby, whom it would have been wiser and manlier to have drowned in the Nile, and then given his body to the dogs."
"The youth gets together his materials to build a bridge to the moon, or, perchance, a palace or temple on the earth, and, at length, the middle-aged man concludes to build a woodshed with them."
"None are so old as those who have outlived enthusiasm"
"How earthy old people become --moldy as the grave! Their wisdom smacks of the earth. There is no foretaste of immortality in it. They remind me of earthworms and mole crickets."

On achievement
                     "The man who is dissatisfied with himself, what can he do?"
On animals
"What is a country without rabbits and partridges? They are among the most simple and indigenous animal products; ancient and venerable families known to antiquity as to modern times; of the very hue and substance of Nature, nearest allied to leaves and to the ground."
"The keeping of bees is like the direction of sunbeams."
On architecture
"True, there are architects so called in this country, and I have heard of one at least possessed with the idea of making architectural ornaments have a core of truth, a necessity, and hence a beauty, as if it were a revelation to him. All very well perhaps from his point of view, but only a little better than the common dilettantism."
On alcohol and alcoholism
"Water is the only drink for a wise man."

On the Army
"Visit the Navy-Yard, and behold a marine, such a man as an American government can make, or such as it can make a man with its black arts -- a mere shadow and reminiscence of humanity, a man laid out alive and standing, and already, as one may say, buried under arms with funeral accompaniments."

 On battles
"After all the field of battle possesses many advantages over the drawing-room. There at least is no room for pretension or excessive ceremony, no shaking of hands or rubbing of noses, which make one doubt your sincerity, but hearty as well as hard hand-play. It at least exhibits one of the faces of humanity, the former only a mask."
On behavior
"If I repent of anything, it is very likely to be my good behavior."
"Behave so the aroma of your actions may enhance the general sweetness of the atmosphere."
On bereavement
"We feel at first as if some opportunities of kindness and sympathy were lost, but learn afterward that any pure grief is ample recompense for all. That is, if we are faithful; -- for a spent grief is but sympathy with the soul that disposes events, and is as natural as the resin of Arabian trees. -- Only nature has a right to grieve perpetually, for she only is innocent. Soon the ice will melt, and the blackbirds sing along the river which he frequented, as pleasantly as ever. The same everlasting serenity will appear in this face of God, and we will not be sorrowful, if he is not."
 "On the death of a friend, we should consider that the fates through confidence have devolved on us the task of a double living, that we have henceforth to fulfill the promise of our friend's life also, in our own, to the world."

On the Human Body
"Every man is the builder of a temple, called his body, to the god he worships, after a style purely his own, nor can he get off by hammering marble instead. We are all sculptors and painters, and our material is our own flesh and blood and bones."

On books - classics
 "For what are the classics but the noblest thoughts of man? They are the only oracles which are not decayed, and there are such answers to the most modern inquiry in them as Delphi and Dodona never gave. We might as well omit to study Nature because she is old."
 "To read well, that is, to read true books in a true spirit, is a noble exercise, and one that will task the reader more than any other exercise which the customs of the day esteem. It requires a training such as the athletes underwent, the steady intention almost of the whole life to this object."
"Read the best books first, or you may not have a chance to read them at all."
"Books must be read as deliberately and reservedly as they were written."
"Books, not which afford us a cowering enjoyment, but in which each thought is of unusual daring; such as an idle man cannot read, and a timid one would not be entertained by, which even make us dangerous to existing institution --such call I good books." "How many a man has dated a new era in his life from the reading of a book! The book exists for us, perchance, that will explain our miracles and reveal new ones. The at present unutterable things we may find somewhere uttered."

On bragging
"If I seem to boast more than is becoming, my excuse is that I brag for humanity rather than for myself."
On busyness
"It is not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?"

On caution
"Beware of all enterprises that require a new set of clothes."

On change
"Things do not change, we do."

On character
"We know but a few men, a great many coats and breeches."
"Pity the man who has a character to support --it is worse than a large family -- he is silent poor indeed."
"The universe seems bankrupt as soon as we begin to discuss the characters of individuals."
"We falsely attribute to men a determined character -- putting together all their yesterdays -- and averaging them -- we presume we know them. Pity the man who has character to support -- it is worse than a large family -- he is the silent poor indeed."
On charity
"If you give money, spend yourself with it."
On chastity
"The generative energy, which, when we are loose, dissipates and makes us unclean, when we are continent invigorates and inspires us. Chastity is the flowering of man; and what are called Genius, Heroism, Holiness, and the like, are but various fruits which succeed it."
On common sense
"Why level downward to our dullest perception always, and praise that as common sense? The commonest sense is the sense of men asleep, which they express by snoring."

On company
"I have a great deal of company in my house; especially in the morning, when nobody calls."

On compliments
"The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked what I thought, and attended to my answer."

On conflict
"The fibers of all things have their tension and are strained like the strings of an instrument."
On conformity
"As to conforming outwardly, and living your own life inwardly, I have not a very high opinion of that course."

On congress
"If we were left solely to the wordy wit of legislators in Congress for our guidance, uncorrected by the seasonal experience and the effectual complaints of the people, America would not long retain her rank among the nations."

On control
"Let nothing come between you and the light."
On conventionality
"Every generation laughs at the old fashions, but religiously follows the new."

On corruption
"There is no odor so bad as that which arises from goodness tainted."

On cost
"The cost of a thing is the amount of what I will call life which is required to be exchanged for it, immediately or in the long run."

On crafts
"The Artist is he who detects and applies the law from observation of the works of Genius, whether of man or Nature. The Artisan is he who merely applies the rules which others have detected."

On criticism
"I am sorry to think that you do not get a man's most effective criticism until you provoke him. Severe truth is expressed with some bitterness."

On death
"Live your life, do your work, then take your hat."
"Every blade in the field - Every leaf in the forest - lays down its life in its season as beautifully as it was taken up."

On deeds and good deeds
"As for doing good; that is one of the professions which is full. Moreover I have tried it fairly and, strange as it may seem, am satisfied that it does not agree with my constitution."
"If I knew for a certainty that a man was coming to my house with the conscious design of doing me good, I should run for my life."

On desire
"If a man constantly aspires is he not elevated?"

On desperation
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."

On determination
"I put a piece of paper under my pillow, and when I could not sleep I wrote in the dark."
On disease
"Is not disease the rule of existence? There is not a lily pad floating on the river but has been riddled by insects. Almost every shrub and tree has its gall, oftentimes esteemed its chief ornament and hardly to be distinguished from the fruit. If misery loves company, misery has company enough. Now, at midsummer, find me a perfect leaf or fruit."

On distrust
"Distrust any enterprise that requires new clothes."

On doubt
"There is no rule more invariable than that we are paid for our suspicions by finding what we suspect."
 "Faith keeps many doubts in her pay. If I could not doubt, I should not believe."

On dream
"If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them."
"If one advances confidently in the directions of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours."
"Our truest life is when we are in our dreams awake."

On duty
"For many years I was a self-appointed inspector of snowstorms and rainstorms and did my duty faithfully, though I never received payment for it."

On eccentricity
"You must not blame me if I do talk to the clouds."

On editing and editors
"Whether the flower looks better in the nosegay than in the meadow where it grew and we had to wet our feet to get it! Is the scholastic air any advantage?"

On education
"How could youths better learn to live than by at once trying the experiment of living?"
"What does education often do? It makes a straight-cut ditch of a free, meandering brook."

On egotism
"I should not talk so much about myself if there were anybody else whom I knew as well."
On emotions
"The heart is forever inexperienced."

On enlightenment
"The light which puts out our eyes is darkness to us. Only that day dawns to which we are awake. There is more day to dawn. The sun is but a morning star."

On eternity
"In eternity there is indeed something true and sublime. But all these times and places and occasions are now and here. God himself culminates in the present moment and will never be more divine in the lapse of the ages. Time is but a stream I go a-fishing in. I drink at it, but when I drink I see the sandy bottom and detect how shallow it is. Its thin current slides away but eternity remains."

On existence
"Being is the great explainer."

On experience
"Experience is in the fingers and head. The heart is inexperienced."

On exploration
"It is easier to sail many thousand miles through cold and storm and cannibals, in a government ship, with five hundred men and boys to assist one, than it is to explore the private sea, the Atlantic and Pacific Ocean of one's being alone. It is not worth the while to go round the world to count the cats in Zanzibar."

On eyes
"The eye is the jewel of the body."

On facts
"My facts shall be falsehoods to the common sense. I would so state facts that they shall be significant, shall be myths or mythologies. Facts which the mind perceived, thoughts which the body thought -- with these I deal."

On failure
"Men are born to succeed, not to fail."

On faith
"We must have infinite faith in each other. If we have not, we must never let it leak out that we have not."
"Through want of enterprise and faith men are where they are, buying and selling and spending their lives like servants."
"The words which express our faith and piety are not definite; yet they are significant and fragrant like frankincense to superior natures."

"The smallest seed of faith is better than the largest fruit of happiness."

On fame
"Even the best things are not equal to their fame."

On farming and farmers
"Farmers are respectable and interesting to me in proportion as they are poor."
"By avarice and selfishness, and a groveling habit, from which none of us is free, of regarding the soil as property, or the means of acquiring property chiefly, the landscape is deformed, husbandry is degraded with us, and the farmer leads the meanest of lives. He knows Nature but as a robber."

On fashion
"We worship not the Graces, nor the Parcae, but Fashion. She spins and weaves and cuts with full authority. The head monkey at Paris puts on a traveler's cap, and all the monkeys in America do the same."

On fear
"People die of fright and live of confidence."

On flowers
"One of the most attractive things about the flowers is their beautiful reserve."

On food and eating
"I have found it to be the most serious objection to coarse labors long continued, that they compelled me to eat and drink coarsely also."

On freedom
"The law will never make men free, it is men that have to make the law free."

On friends and friendship
"A friend is one who incessantly pays us the compliment of expecting from us all the virtues, and who can appreciate them in us. The friend asks no return but that his friend will religiously accept and wear and not disgrace his apotheosis of him. They cherish each other's hopes. They are kind to each other's dreams."
 "We have not so good a right to hate any as our Friend."
"A man cannot be said to succeed in this life who does not satisfy one friend."
"One may discover a new side to his most intimate friend when for the first time he hears him speak in public. He will be stranger to him as he is more familiar to the audience. The longest intimacy could not foretell how he would behave then"
"The language of friendship is not words but meanings."
"The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend."
"To say that a man is your Friend, means commonly no more than this, that he is not your enemy. Most contemplate only what would be the accidental and trifling advantages of Friendship, as that the Friend can assist in time of need by his substance, or his influence, or his counsel. Even the utmost goodwill and harmony and practical kindness are not sufficient for Friendship, for Friends do not live in harmony merely, as some say, but in melody."
  "True friendship can afford true knowledge. It does not depend on darkness and ignorance."

 On generations
"I suppose you think that persons who are as old as your father and myself are always thinking about very grave things, but I know that we are meditating the same old themes that we did when we were ten years old, only we go more gravely about it."
On goals
"In the long run you hit only what you aim at. Therefore, though you should fail immediately, you had better aim at something high."

On god
"It seems to me that the god that is commonly worshipped in civilized countries is not at all divine, though he bears a divine name, but is the overwhelming authority and respectability of mankind combined. Men reverence one another, not yet God."
On goodness
"Goodness is the only investment which never fails."

On generations
"I suppose you think that persons who are as old as your father and myself are always thinking about very grave things, but I know that we are meditating the same old themes that we did when we were ten years old, only we go more gravely about it."

On government
"The government of the world I live in was not framed, like that of Britain, in after-dinner conversations over the wine."
"Government is at best but an expedient; but most governments are usually, and all governments are sometimes, inexpedient. The objections which have been brought against a standing army, and they are many and weighty, and deserve to prevail, may also at last be brought against a standing government."
"That government is best which governs least."
"This American government -- what is it but a tradition, though a recent one, endeavoring to transmit itself unimpaired to posterity, but each instant losing some of its integrity? It has not the vitality and force of a single living man; for a single man can bend it to his will."

On grammar
"When I hear the hypercritical quarreling about grammar and style, the position of the particles, etc., etc., stretching or contracting every speaker to certain rules of theirs. I see that they forget that the first requisite and rule is that expression shall be vital and natural, as much as the voice of a brute or an interjection: first of all, mother tongue; and last of all, artificial or father tongue. Essentially your truest poetic sentence is as free and lawless as a lamb's bleat."

On greed
"He who distinguishes the true savor of his food can never be a glutton; he who does not cannot be otherwise."

On grief
"What right have I to grieve, who have not ceased to wonder?"

On happiness
"Man is the artificer of his own happiness."
"We are made happy when reason can discover no occasion for it. The memory of some past moments is more persuasive than the experience of present ones. There have been visions of such breadth and brightness that these motes were invisible in their light."
On health
"Measure your health by your sympathy with morning and spring. If there is no response in you to the awakening of nature --if the prospect of an early morning walk does not banish sleep, if the warble of the first bluebird does not thrill you --know that the morning and spring of your life are past. Thus may you feel your pulse."
"Must be out-of-doors enough to get experience of wholesome reality, as a ballast to thought and sentiment. Health requires this relaxation, this aimless life."
On home
"We should come home from adventures, and perils, and discoveries every day with new experience and character."
"I had three chairs in my house; one for solitude, two for friendship, three for society."
"Should not every apartment in which man dwells be lofty enough to create some obscurity overhead, where flickering shadows may play at evening about the rafters?"
On honesty
"Be true to your work, your word, and your friend."

On hospitality
"Nowadays the host does not admit you to his hearth, but has got the mason to build one for yourself somewhere in his alley, and hospitality is the art of keeping you at the greatest distance."

On humility
"Humility like the darkness, reveals the heavenly lights."

 On happiness
"Man is the artificer of his own happiness."
"We are made happy when reason can discover no occasion for it. The memory of some past moments is more persuasive than the experience of present ones. There have been visions of such breadth and brightness that these motes were invisible in their light."
On health
"Measure your health by your sympathy with morning and spring. If there is no response in you to the awakening of nature --if the prospect of an early morning walk does not banish sleep, if the warble of the first bluebird does not thrill you --know that the morning and spring of your life are past. Thus may you feel your pulse."
"Must be out-of-doors enough to get experience of wholesome reality, as a ballast to thought and sentiment. Health requires this relaxation, this aimless life."

On idleness
"To have done anything just for money is to have been truly idle."


On imagination
"I do not know how to distinguish between our waking life and a dream. Are we not always living the life that we imagine we are?"
"It is usually the imagination that is wounded first, rather than the heart; it being much more sensitive."

On independence
"The man who goes alone can start today; but he who travels with another must wait till that other is ready, and it may be a long time before they get off."

On influence
"We perceive and are affected by changes too subtle to be described."


On inheritance
"To inherit property is not to be born -- it is to be still-born, rather."

On inspiration
"Write while the heat is in you. The writer who postpones the recording of his thoughts uses an iron which has cooled to burn a hole with. He cannot inflame the minds of his audience."
On instinct
"What is peculiar in the life of a man consists not in his obedience, but his opposition, to his instincts. In one direction or another he strives to live a supernatural life."
  
On institutions
"The way in which men cling to old institutions after the life has departed out of them, and out of themselves, reminds me of those monkeys which cling by their tails -- aye, whose tails contract about the limbs, even the dead limbs, of the forest, and they hang suspended beyond the hunter's reach long after they are dead. It is of no use to argue with such men. They have not an apprehensive intellect, but merely, as it were a prehensile tail."
"Wherever a man goes, men will pursue him and paw him with their dirty institutions, and, if they can, constrain him to belong to their desperate odd-fellow society."

On integrity
"The laboring man has not leisure for a true integrity day by day."

On intelligence and intellectuals
"We need only travel enough to give our intellects an airing."

On kindness
"We hate the kindness which we understand."

On knowledge
"Knowledge does not come to us in details, but in flashes of light from heaven."
"The knowledge of an unlearned man is living and luxuriant like a forest, but covered with mosses and lichens and for the most part inaccessible and going to waste; the knowledge of the man of science is like timber collected in yards for public works, which still supports a green sprout here and there, but even this is liable to dry rot."
"To know that we know what we know, and that we do not know what we do not know, that is true knowledge."

On language
"We are armed with language adequate to describe each leaf of the filed, but not to describe human character."

On law and lawyers
"It is not desirable to cultivate a respect for law, so much as a respect for right."
“Whatever the human law may be, neither an individual nor a nation can commit the least act of injustice against the obscurest individual without having to pay the penalty for it."
"The lawyer's truth is not Truth, but consistency or a consistent expediency."
 "I say, break the law."

On leisure
"He enjoys true leisure who has time to improve his soul's estate."
"A broad margin of leisure is as beautiful in a man's life as in a book. Haste makes waste, no less in life than in housekeeping. Keep the time, observe the hours of the universe, not of the cars. What are threescore years and ten hurriedly and coarsely lived to moments of divine leisure in which your life is coincident with the life of the universe?"

On letters
"I have received no more than one or two letters in my life that were worth the postage."
On liberty
"Disobedience is the true foundation of liberty. The obedient must be slaves."

On life
"Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them."
"If I shall sell both my forenoons and afternoons to society, as most appear to do, I'm sure that, for me, there would be nothing left worth living for."
"City life is millions of people being lonesome together."
"I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life... I wanted to live so sturdily and so Spartan-like as to put to rout all that was not life... to drive life into a corner to know it by experience and be able to give an account of it in my next excursion."
"However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names. It is not so bad as you are. It looks poorest when you are the richest."

On love
"There is no remedy for love than to love more."
"Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame."

On luxury
"Most of the luxuries and many of the so-called comforts of life are not only not indispensable, but positive hindrances to the elevation of mankind."

On masses
"The mass never comes up to the standard of its best member, but on the contrary degrades itself to a level with the lowest."

On mathematics
"In the midst of this chopping sea of civilized life, such are the clouds and storms and quicksands and thousand-and-one items to be allowed for, that a man has to live, if he would not founder and go to the bottom and not make his port at all, by dead reckoning, and he must be a great calculator indeed who succeeds."

On media
"We are eager to tunnel under the Atlantic and bring the Old World some weeks nearer to the New; but perchance the first news that will leak through into the broad, flapping American ear will be that the Princess Adelaide has the whooping cough."


On mediocrity
"The boy gathers materials for a temple, and then when he is thirty, concludes to build a woodshed."
On memory
"Our moments of inspiration are not lost though we have no particular poem to show for them; for those experiences have left an indelible impression, and we are ever and anon reminded of them."
"Of what significance are the things you can forget."

On minorities
"A minority is powerless while it conforms to the majority; it is not even a minority then; but it is irresistible when it clogs by its whole weight."

On mistakes
"The broadest and most prevalent error requires the most disinterested virtue to sustain it."
On money
"Almost any man knows how to earn money, but not one in a million knows how to spend it."
"The way by which you may get money almost without exception leads downward."
"The only wealth is life."
"Money is not required to buy one necessity of the soul."

On morality
"Our whole life is startlingly moral. There is never an instant's truce between virtue and vice."
"Don't be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life so."
"Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. So aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something."

On music
"The pleasure we feel in music springs from the obedience which is in it."

On mystery
"At the same time that we are earnest to explore and learn all things, we require that all things be mysterious and unexplorable, that land and sea be infinitely wild, unsurveyed and unfathomed by us because unfathomable."

On names
"If the fairest features of the landscape are to be named after men, let them be the noblest and worthiest men alone."
 "A name pronounced is the recognition of the individual to whom it belongs. He who can pronounce my name aright, he can call me, and is entitled to my love and service."
On nations
"Nations! What are nations? Tartars! and Huns! and Chinamen! Like insects they swarm. The historian strives in vain to make them memorable. It is for want of a man that there are so many men. It is individuals that populate the world."
On nature
"We can never have enough of nature. We must be refreshed by the sight of inexhaustible vigor, vast and titanic features, the sea-coast with its wrecks, the wilderness with its living and its decaying trees, the thunder-cloud, and the rain which lasts three weeks and produces freshets. We need to witness our own limits transgressed, and some life pasturing freely where we never wander."
On news
"To a philosopher all news, as it is called, is gossip, and they who edit it and read it are old women over their tea."
On passion
"Do what you love. Know you own bone; gnaw at it, bury it, unearth it, and gnaw it still."
On patriotism
"Yet some can be patriotic who have no self-respect, and sacrifice the greater to the less. They love the soil which makes their graves, but have no sympathy with the spirit which may still animate their clay. Patriotism is a maggot in their heads."
On people
"You know about a person who deeply interests you more than you can be told. A look, a gesture, an act, which to everybody else is insignificant tells you more about that one than words can."

On philosophers and philosophy
"What sort of philosophers are we, who know absolutely nothing about the origin and destiny of cats?"
 "To be a philosopher is not merely to have subtle thoughts, nor even to found a school, but so to love wisdom as to live according to its dictates a life of simplicity, independence, magnanimity, and trust. It is to solve some of the problems of life, not only theoretically, but practically."

On plays
"A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind."

On poetry and poets
"Poetry implies the whole truth, philosophy expresses only a particle of it."
 "Good poetry seems too simple and natural a thing that when we meet it we wonder that all men are not always poets. Poetry is nothing but healthy speech."

On politics
"Politics is the gizzard of society, full of gut and gravel."
On potential
"We are not what we are, nor do we treat or esteem each other for such, but for what we are capable of being."

On poverty and the poor
"Give me the poverty that enjoys true wealth."

On present
"You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment."
On pride
"I would not talk so much about myself if there were anybody else whom I knew as well."

On prison
"Under a government which imprisons any unjustly, the true place for a just man is also a prison."

On problems
"There are thousands hacking at the branches of evil to one who is striking at the root."

On profits
"I respect not his labors, his farm where everything has its price, who would carry the landscape, who would carry his God, to market, if he could get anything for him; who goes to market for his god as it is; on whose farm nothing grows free, whose fields bear no crops, whose meadows no flowers, whose trees no fruits, but dollars."

On progress
"When any real progress is made, we unlearn and learn anew what we thought we knew before."

On property
"The highest law gives a thing to him who can use it."

On protest
"I quietly declare war with the State, after my fashion, though I will still make use and get advantage of her as I can, as is usual in such cases."

On public opinion
"Public opinion is a weak tyrant compared with our own private opinion. What a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate."

On purity
"The purity men love is like the mists which envelope the earth, and not like the azure ether beyond."

On purpose
"Many men go fishing their entire lives without knowing it is not fish they are after."
"Be not simply good; be good for something."
"Why should we be in such desperate haste to succeed, and in such desperate enterprises? If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured and far away. It is not important that he should mature as soon as an apple tree or an oak."

On rain
"To watch this crystal globe just sent from heaven to associate with me. While these clouds and this somber drizzling weather shut all in, we two draw nearer and know one another. The gathering in of the clouds with the last rush and dying breath of the wind, and then the regular dripping of twigs and leaves the country over, the impression of inward comfort and Sociableness, the drenched stubble and trees that drop beads on you as you pass, their dim outline seen through the rain on all sides drooping in sympathy with yourself. These are my undisputed territory. This is Nature's English comfort."

On rank
"It is an interesting question how far men would retain their relative rank if they were divested of their clothes."

On rebellion
"The greater part of what my neighbors call good I believe in my soul to be bad, and if I repent of anything, it is very likely to be my good behavior. What demon possessed me that I behaved so well? You may say the wisest thing you can, old man, -- you who have lived seventy years, not without honor of a kind, -- I hear an irresistible voice which invites me away from all that."
On reform
"I believe that what so saddens the reformer is not his sympathy with his fellows in distress, but, though he be the holiest son of God, is his private ail. Let this be righted, let the spring come to him, the morning rise over his couch, and he will forsake his generous companions without apology."

On regret
"To regret deeply is to live afresh."
"Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it come to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh."
On resignation
"What is called resignation is confirmed desperation."

On respectability
"We live thick and are in each other's way, and stumble over one another, and I think we thus lose some respect for one another."

On riches
"That man is richest whose pleasures are the cheapest."
"The rich man is always sold to the institution which makes him rich. Absolutely speaking, the more money, the less virtue."

On risk
"A man sits as many risks as he runs."

On rules
"Any fool can make a rule, and every fool will mind it."
"Absolutely speaking, Do unto others as you would that they should do unto you is by no means a golden rule, but the best of current silver. An honest man would have but little occasion for it. It is golden not to have any rule at all in such a case."
On saints
"Our manners have been corrupted by communication with the saints."

On scholars and scholarship
"The success of great scholars and thinkers is commonly a courtier-like success, not kingly, not manly."

On science
"If we knew all the laws of Nature, we should need only one fact, or the description of one actual phenomenon, to infer all the particular results at that point. Now we know only a few laws, and our result is vitiated, not, of course, by any confusion or irregularity in Nature, but by our ignorance of essential elements in the calculation. Our notions of law and harmony are commonly confined to those instances which we detect; but the harmony which results from a far greater number of seemingly conflicting, but really concurring, laws, which we have not detected, is still more wonderful. The particular laws are as our points of view, as, to the traveler, a mountain outline varies with every step, and it has an infinite number of profiles, though absolutely but one form. Even when cleft or bored through it is not comprehended in its entireness."

On seasons
"Live in each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influences of each.

On self-appraisal
"We are constantly invited to be who we are."

On self-expression
"I fear chiefly lest my expression may not be extravagant enough, may not wander far enough beyond the narrow limit of my daily experience, so as to be adequate to the truth of which I have been convinced. Extravagance! it depends on how you are yarded."

On self-improvement
"To affect the quality of the day, that is the highest of arts. Every man is tasked to make his life, even in its details, worthy of the contemplation of his most elevated and critical hour."

On knowledge
 "Explore thyself. Herein are demanded the eye and the nerve."
 "I know myself as a human entity; the scene, so to speak, or thoughts are affection; and am sensible of certain doubleness by which I can stand as remote from myself as from another. However intense my experience, I am conscious of the presence and criticism of a part of me, which, as it were, is no part of me, but spectator, sharing no experience, but taking note of it, and that is no more I than it is you."
"Nay, be a Columbus to whole new continents and worlds within you, opening new channels, not of trade, but of thought. Every man is the lord of a realm beside which the earthly empire of the Czar is but a petty state, a hummock left by the ice."

On sensitivity
 "The finest qualities of our nature, like the bloom on fruits, can be preserved only by the most delicate handling. Yet we do not treat ourselves nor one another thus tenderly."
On silence
"I have been breaking silence these twenty-three years and have hardly made a rent in it."
"Silence is the universal refuge, the sequel to all dull discourses and all foolish acts, a balm to our every chagrin, as welcome after satiety as after disappointment; that background which the painter may not daub, be he master or bungler, and which, however awkward a figure we may have made in the foreground, remains ever our inviolable asylum, where no indignity can assail, no personality can disturb us."

On simplicity
"Our life is frittered away by detail. Simplify, simplify, simplify! I say, let your affairs be as two or three, and not a hundred or a thousand; instead of a million count half a dozen, and keep your accounts on your thumb-nail."

On sin
"We cannot well do without our sins; they are the highway of our virtue."
"After the first blush of sin comes its indifference."

On sincerity
"I sat at a table where were rich food and wine in abundance, and obsequious attendance, but sincerity and truth were not; and I went away hungry from the inhospitable board."
"I only desire sincere relations with the worthiest of my acquaintance, that they may give me an opportunity once in a year to speak the truth."

On slavery
"Talk about slavery! It is not the peculiar institution of the South. It exists wherever men are bought and sold, wherever a man allows himself to be made a mere thing or a tool, and surrenders his inalienable rights of reason and conscience. Indeed, this slavery is more complete than that which enslaves the body alone... I never yet met with, or heard of, a judge who was not a slave of this kind, and so the finest and most unfailing weapon of injustice. He fetches a slightly higher price than the black men only because he is a more valuable slave."

On socializing and socialism
"What men call social virtues, good fellowship, is commonly but the virtue of pigs in a litter, which lie close together to keep each other warm."

On society
"Sobriety, severity, and self-respect are the foundations of all true sociality."

On solitude
"I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone, I never found the companionable as solitude."
"I have never found a companion so companionable as solitude."
"I would rather sit on a pumpkin, and have it all to myself, than be crowded on a velvet cushion."
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment."


On soul
"However intense my experience, I am conscious of the presence and criticism of a part of me, which, as it were, is not a part of me, but a spectator, sharing no experience, but taking note of it, and that is no more I than it is you. When the play, it may be the tragedy, of life is over, the spectator goes his way. It was a kind of fiction, a work of the imagination only, so far as he was concerned."

On speech
"Speech is for the convenience of those who are hard of hearing; but there are many fine things which we cannot say if we have to shout."

On stardom
"The stars are the apexes of what triangles!"

On state
"There will never be a really free and enlightened State until the State comes to recognize the individual as a higher and independent power, from which all its own power and authority are derived, and treats him accordingly. I please myself with imagining a State at last which can afford to be just to all men, and to treat the individual with respect as a neighbor; which even would not think it inconsistent with its own repose if a few went to live aloof from it, not meddling with it, nor embraced by it, who fulfilled all the duties of neighbors and fellow-men. A State which bore this kind of fruit, and suffered it to drop off as fast as it ripened, would prepare the way for a still more perfect and glorious State, which also I have imagined, but not yet anywhere seen."

On success
"You must get your living by loving, or at least half your life is a failure."
"We were born to succeed, not to fail."
"We must walk consciously only part way toward our goal, and then leap in the dark to our success."

On the sun
"The sun is but a morning star."

On suspicion
"We are paid for our suspicions by finding what we suspected."

On taxes and taxation
"If a thousand men were not to pay their tax-bills this year that would not be a violent and bloody measure, as it would be to pay them, and enable the State to commit violence and shed innocent blood. This is, in fact, the definition of a peaceable revolution, if any such is possible."

On technology
"Our inventions are wont to be pretty toys, which distract our attention from serious things. They are but improved means to an unimproved end."

On tenderness
"Glances of true beauty can be seen in the faces of those who live in true meekness."

On thoughts and thinking
"A man thinks as well through his legs and arms as this brain."
"Thought is the sculptor who can create the person you want to be."
"To him whose elastic and vigorous thought keeps pace with the sun, the day is a perpetual morning."
  "Associate reverently, as much as you can, with your loftiest thoughts."
"How can they expect a harvest of thought who have not had the seed time of character."
"Each thought that is welcomed and recorded is a nest egg by the side of which more will be laid."
"Having each some shingles of thought well dried, we sat and whittled them."

On time
"Time is but the stream I go fishing in. I drink at it, but while I drink I see the sandy bottom and detect how shallow it is. It's thin current slides away, but eternity remains."
"As if you could kill time without injuring eternity."
"You cannot kill time without injuring eternity."

On tools
"But lo! men have become the tools of their tools."

On travel
"That devilish Iron Horse, whose ear-rending neigh is heard throughout the town, has muddied the Boiling Spring with his foot, and he it is that has browsed off all the woods on Walden shore, that Trojan horse, with a thousand men in his belly, introduced by mercenary Greeks! Where is the country's champion, the Moore of Moore Hall, to meet him at the Deep Cut and thrust an avenging lance between the ribs of the bloated pest?"
"He who is only a traveler learns things at second-hand and by the halves, and is poor authority. We are most interested when science reports what those men already know practically or instinctively, for that alone is a true humanity, or account of human experience."
"Only the traveling is good which reveals to me the value of home and enables me to enjoy it better."

On trust
"I think that we may safely trust a good deal more than we do. We may waive just so much care of ourselves as we honestly bestow elsewhere."

On truth
"Between whom there is hearty truth, there is love."
"It takes two to speak truth -- one to speak, and another to hear."
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth."
 
On understanding
"We shall see but little way if we require to understand what we see. How few things can a man measure with the tape of his understanding! How many greater things might he be seeing in the meanwhile!"

On universe
"The universe is wider than our views of it."

On vegetarianism
"One farmer says to me, You cannot live on vegetable food solely, for it furnishes nothing to make bones with; and so he religiously devotes a part of his day to supplying his system with the raw material of bones; walking all the while he talks behind his oxen, which, with vegetable-made bones, jerk him and his lumbering plow along in spite of every obstacle."
"I have no doubt that it is a part of the destiny of the human race, in its gradual improvement, to leave off eating animals, as surely as the savage tribes have left off eating each other when they came in contact with the more civilized."
On virtue
"That virtue we appreciate is as much ours as another s. We see so much only as we possess."
"There are nine hundred and ninety-nine patrons of virtue to one virtuous man."

On vision
"I would give all the wealth of the world, and all the deeds of all the heroes, for one true vision."

On voting
"All voting is a sort of gaming, like checkers or backgammon, with a slight moral tinge to it, a playing with right and wrong."

On war
"The savage in man is never quite eradicated."
"I have a deep sympathy with war, it so apes the gait and bearing of the soul."

On wealth
"A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to let alone."
 "Superfluous wealth can buy superfluities only. Money is not required to buy one necessary of the soul."
"Wealth is the ability to fully experience life."
"In wildness is the preservation of the world."
"We need the tonic of wildness, to wade sometimes in marshes where the bittern and the meadow-hen lurk, and hear the booming of the snipe; to smell the whispering sedge where only some wilder and more solitary fowl builds her nest, and the mink crawls with its belly close to the ground."

On winter
"Many of the phenomena of Winter are suggestive of an inexpressible tenderness and fragile delicacy. We are accustomed to hear this king described as a rude and boisterous tyrant; but with the gentleness of a lover he adorns the tresses of Summer."
On wisdom
"It is characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things."

On wit
"Sometimes we are inclined to class those who are once-and-a-half witted with the half-witted, because we appreciate only a third part of their wit."

On women
"It requires nothing less than a chivalric feeling to sustain a conversation with a lady."

On words
"The volatile truth of our words should continually betray the inadequacy of the residual statement."
On work
"Men have become the tools of their trade."
"The really efficient laborer will be found not to crowd his day with work, but will saunter to his task surrounded by a wide halo of ease and leisure."
"There is no more fatal blunderer than he who consumes the greater part of his life getting his living."
"Most men would feel insulted if it were proposed to employ them in throwing stones over a wall, and then in throwing them back, merely that they might earn their wages. But many are no more worthily employed now."

On world
"The earth is not a mere fragment of dead history, stratum upon stratum like the leaves of a book, to be studied by geologists and antiquaries chiefly, but living poetry like the leaves of a tree, which precede flowers and fruit -- not a fossil earth, but a living earth; compared with whose great central life all animal and vegetable life is merely parasitic. Its throes will heave our exuviate from their graves."
On worth
"All good things are cheap: all bad are very dear."

On writers and writing
"A perfectly healthy sentence, it is true, is extremely rare. For the most part we miss the hue and fragrance of the thought; as if we could be satisfied with the dews of the morning or evening without their colors, or the heavens without their azure."
"How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live."

On youth
"Youth gets together with their materials to build a bridge to the moon or maybe a palace on earth; then in middle age they decide to build a woodshed with them instead."

In General
"I heartily accept the motto, That government is best which governs least; and I should like to see it acted up to more rapidly and systematically. Carried out, it finally amounts to this, which I also believe, That government is best which governs not at all; and when men are prepared for it, that will be the kind of government which they will have. Government is at best but an expedient; but most governments are usually, and all governments are sometimes, inexpedient.
"I must walk toward Oregon, and not toward Europe. And that way the nation is moving, and I may say that mankind progress from east to west. We go eastward to realize history and study the works of art and literature, retracing the steps of the race; we go westward as into the future, with a spirit of enterprise and adventure. "
"Eastward I go only by force; but westward I go free. "
"Nothing is so much to be feared as fear. "
"There are a thousand hacking at the branches of evil to one who is striking at the root, and it may be that he who bestows the largest amount of time and money on the needy is doing the most by his mode of life to produce that misery which he strives in vain to relieve"
"Drive a nail home and clinch it so faithfully that you can wake up in the night and think of your work with satisfaction, a work at which you would not be ashamed to invoke the Muse. "
 "I lose my respect for the man who can make the mystery of sex the subject of a coarse jest, yet when you speak earnestly and seriously on the subject, is silent. "
"Our inventions are wont to be pretty toys, which distract our attention from serious things. They are but improved means to an unimproved end, We are in great haste to construct a magnetic telegraph from Maine to Texas; but Maine and Texas, it may be, have nothing important to communicate. "
 "Every man will be a poet if he can; otherwise a philosopher or man of science. This proves the superiority of the poet. "
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city you go into the desperate country, and have to console yourself with the bravery of minks and muskrats. A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind. There is no play in them, for this comes after work. But it is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things. "

 "If a man is alive, there is always danger that he may die, though the danger must be allowed to be less in proportion as he is dead-and-alive to begin with. A man sits as many risks as he runs. "


Kahlil Gibran






Kahlil Gibran, an artist, poet, and writer was born on January 6, 1883 n the north of modern-day Lebanon and in what was then part of Ottoman Empire. He had no formal schooling in Lebanon. In 1895, the family immigrated to the United States when Kahlil was a young man and settled in South Boston.


  Gibran enrolled in an art school and was soon a member of the avant-garde community and became especially close to Boston artist, photographer, and publisher Fred Holland Day who encouraged and supported Gibran’s creative projects.
An accomplished artist in drawing and watercolor, Kahlil attended art school in Paris from 1908 to 1910, pursuing a symbolist and romantic style. He held his first art exhibition of his drawings in 1904 in Boston, at Day's studio. It was at this exhibition, that Gibran met Mary Elizabeth Haskell, who ten years his senior. The two formed an important friendship and love affair that lasted the rest of Gibran’s short life.


  Haskell influenced every aspect of Gibran’s personal life and career. She became his editor when he began to write and ushered his first book into publication in 1918,  The Madman, a slim volume of aphorisms and parables written in biblical cadence somewhere between poetry and prose.
 Gibran died in New York City on April 10, 1931, at the age of 48 from cirrhosis of the liver and tuberculosis.



                                                                Khalil Gibran Timeline:
 1883: Gibran was born in Bsharri, Mount Lebanon Mutasarrifate.
1895: His mother took Khalil and his brothers and sisters to New York, was enrolled in the school
1902: Returned to Boston.
1904: Held his first art exhibition of his drawings in Boston at Fred Day’s studio.
1908: Went to study art with Auguste Rodin in Paris for two years.
1911-1912: Met `Abdu'l-Bahá, the leader of the Bahá’í Faith.
1918: His first book, “The Madman” was published by Alfred A. Knopf.
1923: His most famous book, “The Prophet” was first published.
1931: Died in New York City.




And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter and the sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.

All you have shall someday be given;
Therefore give now, that the season of giving
may be yours and not your inheritors.

And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare
feet and the winds long to play with your hair.

 “All our words are but crumbs that fall down from the feast of the mind.”
"And let the winds of the heavens dance between you."
"A little knowledge that acts is worth infinitely more than much knowledge that is idle."
"An exaggeration is a truth that has lost its temper."

"Beauty in not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart."
"Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror."

"Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother."

“Every man loves two women;the one is the creation of his imagination and the other is not yet born.”
"Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."

"Faith is an oasis in the heart which will never be reached by the caravan of thinking."
"Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity."
"Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair."
“For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one”
"For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun? And what is it to cease breathing but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?"
“Faith is a knowledge within the heart, beyond the reach of proof.”

“For what is it to die, But to stand in the sun and melt into the wind?”

“For what is Evil but Good tortured by its own hunger and thirst?”
"Generosity is giving more than you can, and pride is taking less than you need."
"Give and Take... For to the bee a flower is a fountain if life And to the flower a bee is a messenger of love And to both, bee and flower, the giving and the receiving is a need and an ecstasy "
“God made Truth with many doors to welcome every believer who knocks on them.”
“He who listens to truth is not less than he who utters truth.”

“How generous you are, Earth,
and how strong is your yearning for your children lost between that which they have attained and that which they could not obtain.
We clamor and you smile; we flit but you stay!
We extract your elements to make cannons and bombs,
but out of our elements you create lilies and roses.

 "If the other person injures you, you may forget the injury; but if you injure him you will always remember."

“It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations”

“I prefer to be a dreamer among the humblest, with visions to be realized, than lord among those without dreams and desires.”
 
“In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.”

“I have learnt silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet strange, I am ungrateful to these teachers.

"If you cannot work with love but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work."

 “If indeed you must be candid, be candid beautifully.”

If you reveal your secrets to the wind you should not blame the wind for revealing them to the trees.

“In battling evil, excess is good; for he who is moderate in announcing the truth is presenting half-truth. He conceals the other half out of fear of the people's wrath.”

“It is well to give when asked but it is better to give unasked, through understanding.”

“I love you my brother whoever you are whether you worship in your church, kneel in your temple, or pray in your mosque. You and I are all children of one faith, for the diverse paths of religion are fingers of the loving hand of one Supreme Being, a hand extended to all, offering completeness of spirit to all, eager to receive all.”

“In truth you owe naught to any man. You owe all to all men.”
“It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations."
"It is only when you are lost in your smaller selves that you seek the sky which you call God. Would that you might find paths into your vast selves."
"I prefer to be a dreamer among the humblest, with visions to be realized, than lord among those without dreams and desires."

“... joy and sorrow are inseparable. . . together they come and when one sits alone with you . . . remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.”

 "Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh, and the greatness which does not bow before children."

"Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself. Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love."
"Let your best be for your friend..."
"Life is indeed darkness save when there is urge, and all urge is blind save when there is knowledge, and all knowledge is vain save when there is work, and all work is empty save when there is love."
“Let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.”
  
“Love possesses not nor will it be possessed, for love is sufficient unto love.”

“Love is trembling happiness.”

 “Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls”

“Love and doubt have never been on speaking terms.”

 “Much of your pain is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.”
"Money is like love; it kills slowly and painfully the one who withholds it, and enlivens the other who turns it on his fellow man."
 "March on. Do not tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life's path."
"My Soul is Heavy Laden with Its Fruits: Would that I were a dry well, and that the people tossed stones into me, for that would be easier than to be a spring of flowing water that the thirsty pass by, and from which they avoid drinking"

"No man can reveal to you nothing but that which already lies half-asleep in the dawning of your knowledge."

“Of the Good in you I can speak, but not of the Evil. “
"Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars."

"Perplexity is the beginning of knowledge."

"Solitude is the companion of sorrow as well as the companion of spiritual exaltation."
"Seek ye counsel of the aged for their eyes have looked on the faces of the years and their ears have hardened to the voices of Life. Even if their counsel is displeasing to you, pay heed to them."
 "Say not, I have found the truth, but rather, I have found a truth."
“Safeguarding the rights of others is the most noble and beautiful end of a human being.”

Sadness is but a wall between two gardens.

"The lust for comfort, that stealthy thing that enters the house as a guest, and then becomes a host, and then a master."
"The song that lies silent in the heart of a mother sings upon this lips of her child. --"

 "The chemist who can extract from his heart's elements, compassion, respect, longing, patience, regret, surprise, and forgiveness and compound them into one can create that atom which is called love."

“The obvious is that which is never seen until someone expresses it simply.”

“Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.”
 
“To be able to look back upon one’s life in satisfaction, is to live twice”

“To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to.”

“The reality of the other person lies not in what he reveals to you, but what he cannot reveal to you. Therefore, if you would understand him, listen not to what he says, but rather to what he does not say.”

“Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness.”

“The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose.”

“To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to do.”

“The lights of stars that were extinguished ages ago still reaches us. So it is with great men who died centuries ago, but still reach us with the radiations of their personalities.”

“The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.”

“Those who give you a serpent when you ask for a fish, may have nothing but serpents to give. It is then generosity on their part.”
 “The appearance of things change according to the emotions, and thus we see magic and beauty in them, while the magic and beauty are really in ourselves.”
"The obvious is that which is never seen until someone expresses it simply."
"The teacher gives not of his wisdom, but rather of his faith and lovingness."
"The significance of a man is not in what he attains, but rather what he longs to attain."
"Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolutions."
 "You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give."
"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding."
"Your hearts know in silence the secrets of the days and the nights."
"You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams."
"Your daily life is your temple and religion."

"You can muffle the drum, and you can loosen the strings of the lyre, but who shall command the skylark not to sing?"
"Your friend is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving."
"Yesterday is but today's memory, and tomorrow is today's dream."
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
and though they are with you, and yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love, but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward, nor tarries with yesterday.

 “Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”

 “Your daily life is your temple and your religion. When you enter into it take with you your all.”

“You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.”
 “Yes, there is a Nirvanah; it is in leading your sheep to a green pasture, and in putting your child to sleep, and in writing the last line of your poem.

You often say, "I would give, but only to the deserving."
The trees in your orchard say not so, nor the flocks in your pastures.
They give that they may live, for to withhold is to perish.
Surely he who is worthy to receive his days and his nights,
is worthy of all else from you.

“Your friend is your needs answered.”

Your life is an island separated from all other islands and continents. Regardless of how many boats you send to other shores or how many ships arrive upon your shores, you yourself are an island separated by its own pains, secluded in its happiness”
"Verily the kindness that gazes upon itself in a mirror turns to stone, and a good deed that calls itself by tender names becomes the parent to a curse."
  
"When we turn to one another for counsel we reduce the number of our enemies."
"Work is love made visible. And if you can't work with love but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work and sit at the gate of the temple and take alms of the people who work with joy."
“When Good is hungry, it seeks food, even in dark caves, and when it thirsts, it drinks even of dead waters.”

“Wisdom ceases to be wisdom when it becomes too proud to weep, too grave to laugh, and too selfish to seek other than itself.”

“What difference is there between us, save a restless dream that follows my soul but fears to come near you?”
 “When you part from your friend, you grieve not; For that which you love most in her may be clearer in her absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.”

“When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you shall see that, in truth, you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”

 
 Art work by Kahlil Gibran






































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Raddison Blu Hotel managers temper tantrum



 Spiritual Temper Tantrums

  My wife and I were travelling on business and had been staying at the Radisson Blu in Letterkenny Ireland for just under two weeks when I caught the flu and became very congested. I'm asthmatic and congestion is a problem.  My wife ran the shower for me to get up a steam, hoping a hot shower and steam would offer some relief.
  The hotel wasn't built with showers, instead a shower head is attached to a metal hose that is attached to the water main. After my wife turned the water on to run; a small rip in the metal shower hose was broke up and unknown to us, water shot out across the floor and into the hall.
 We shut the water off and mopped up the spilled water with towels and called the front desk, told them the problem, asked to have the shower fixed and to have new towels brought up to the room. The clerk said he would and that was the last we heard from him.  
 Three hours later, I phoned the reception again and asked for a repairman and clean towels. The repairman arrived, fixed the shower head and left. Several minutes later a furious hotel manager called. She made three points in rapid succession. She was charging us $200 for the damage done by the faulty hose, there were two persons in a room booked for one and she was charging for the second person with penalties and that her workman had informed her that I was ill with the flu and did I want to see a doctor?
  I was taken aback by the verbal assault and the invasion of privacy and general obnoxiousness of it all. I told her, no, I didn't want to see a doctor.  She said that it was not in the best interest of the other hotel guests to allow a sick person to "Carry on" in the hotel. I told her we were leaving the hotel that day so it wasn't an issue.
  I phoned my wife who was at her consulting site and told her about the manager's abrasive call. She called the manager and tried to explain that the shower hose was broken.
  The manager replied that "You and your husband are telling two different stories so we'll get you both in the same room and get the story straight"
  They agreed to meet at 5:00 that afternoon. I phoned the manager and told her I wanted the broken hose present as well as the workman who fixed the hose.  
  That blew her fuse. She went off on me. She snapped that the workman had taken the hose with him and had left the property for the day and, she informed me, I was not to tell her what to do in her hotel.  I asked her to calm down. She replied in a manner that made me think she was speaking for the benefit of someone else she said "You are raising your voice at me"
 "No one has raised their voice at you" I replied "I have Streep throat, I can barely talk,"
 "In that case" she snapped "You are being aggressive towards me and I feel threatened by your mannerism"
  I told her she was being aggressive I was simply defending myself.  She hissed something and hung up. Several seconds later she called back and told me that check it was past noon and I was to leave the hotel "immediately"  
  I explained that we had arranged for a late checkout and we were leaving the hotel in four hours away, that I had a temperature, the chills and a breathing problem and I needed to rest before a four hour ride to Dublin. Her reply was that I was to vacate the room or that she would arrange with the local authorities to take me out of the room.

So I left.


THE HOTEL MANAGERS RESPONSE TO THIS REVIEW


Dear guest,

Thank you for taking the time to post a review following your recent stay at the Radisson Blu Hotel, Letterkenny.

It is unfortunate that you did not enjoy your stay at the hotel however your above statements are completely inaccurate and different to that of correspondence recently received by the hotel from you. We will not use Trip Advisor as a way of delivering in detail what actually happened during your stay.

Kind regards,

Helena O’Brien
Director of Sales & Marketing
Radisson Blu Hotel, Letterkenny

THE HOTEL MANAGERS RESPONSE AFTER US CORPORATE GOT THE COMPLAINT

Dear Mr Tuohy,

Thank you for your recent correspondence to Carlson Rezidor following your stay at the Radisson Blu Hotel, Letterkenny.

As per our previous correspondence we have apologised at length for any shortcomings in service that you received during your stay with us.

Kind regards,


Helena

Art


Things I’m banishing from my life;



Things I’m banishing from my life; comparing, judgement, anger (really need to work on that one) regrets, worry, blame, guilt and fear…….let me put that another way, Things I’m working on trying to banish from my life. It's not that easy to do.






What forgive and forget also means

At some point, after enough self-induced torment, we need to forgive others. Not because the bastards deserve forgiving, they usually don’t.  But rather we should forgive them for our own good, forgive them because we deserve peace of mind…. And when that’s done, banish them from your thoughts forever.



Lead or follow

I decided long ago that if I was going to lead my own life, to be a leader instead of a follower, I would have to be prepared to be alone. People want people to follow the herd and are suspicious of those who won’t.  The author Max Lucado said it the best “A man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd” 


Instincts and Intuition



What the years has taught me is to listen to my instincts and to trust my instincts. Intuition is the ability to know without inference or reason, the word comes from the Greek intueri, which means to look inside. Intuition is the basis for instinct because intuition doesn’t lie.


Alone time



I a lot myself time for being alone because it’s healthy to stop every now and then and define myself so I am not defined by others.  


Uncle Walt to my generation


Two things

Having grown up an orphan, here are two things I’ve learned about love. One is that love is the absence of judgment and the other is that love is something that isn’t found, we don’t stumble upon it accident and… Puff! It grows. We build it. Love is something we build day in and day out.



and I mean it....sort of


Today I had the unfortunate experience of having to spend time with a humorless man who said to me “I mean every word I say” and I lied just to be mischievous and said “Me too” and he believed me and therein lays the problem. People who mean what they say think everyone else does too.  



In the world

I try to be in the world while most writers try to be of the world, so many of them think that stepping back from the world makes them better observers, but does it?

Even if I wanted to step back from the world, to not be present in the world, I couldn’t do it because I am grateful for my life and the more grateful we are the more present in the world we become and the more we take from life.


.................and remember to laugh and be in awe of everything, like this kid



Write

                                                 

I take one day off per week to write and on that day, that's all I do for eight hours. I write short stories, novels, histories and plays. I don't answer the phone, I don't go out, I don't leave my desk. I do that because it's so, so, so easy not to write and writing is what I wan to do and we have to begin doing what we love as soon as possible. We don't live in eternity but our ideas can, what we write can live forever. And if I don't write all I have are ideas about what to write....outlines, concepts, notions...and being a writer isn't about ideas, being a writer is about making ideas happen, it is about bringing the to life.  









I love this photo


Be happy

What I am working on these days to improve myself is to stop talking so much and so often about my problems, the big ones and the tiny ones. I’m not saying that I am going to stop asking about the problems I have, that’s not healthy,  but I have noticed that talking about our problems can become a sort of mental addiction. What I’m trying to do is to talk about the hundreds of joys I have in this life and surprisingly, it’s not easy to do. Whining is easier. Anyway, thinking about the joys of my life…and they ranges from TV commercials that make me laugh to a woman who loves me unquestionably….isn’t a way to get rid of the problems I have it’s just another better way to deal with them because they will always be there.  I’ll always have problem but that doesn’t matter because happiness isn’t the absence of problems, happiness is achieved by our ability to deal with our problems constructively.   Simply put, the way to happiness is happiness. There is no other way.


Friends and aging

I am a man with issues and because of that being my friend is hard work. My friends have to tolerate the little pockets of strangeness within me and deal with the hundreds and hundreds of quirks and oddities that make me who I am.  I’m complicated and the friends I have are few but fiercely loyal to me. Because of that, when they hurt, and friends hurt you, no matter how good your relationship is, and I forgive them for that just as they forgive me my weirdness and irascibility.  I’ve also noted, as I age, that I have so fewer friends because I find more and more of myself with every passing day and the more I find myself, the more people I lose. And that’s okay.



Bullies

I voted this morning. The voting poll is in an elementary school. Taped to the wall were about 100 students papers on how they would handle a bully. Here's some of what I found;

This child has a future writing PR slogans

This child would get involved after the fact


and this child would pull the old bait and switch