Slow down.

Before you speak, listen to what is being said.  Before you react something, think it through first.

Then think it through again.

If you still feel you need to react, okay, go to it.

 If you’re going to criticize, wait it out, hold your tongue and see the above to steps.

Pick your battles carefully. Sure, you can win certain struggles but as a natural born fighter I can tell you this; sometimes having peace in your life is a lot better, a lot better, than being right. 

also,when you have a cold, take a hot shower

Does someone matter in your life?

Does someone matter in your life? Tell them. 

Just say to them “ I want to be sure you know that you matter to me. You make a difference in my life” 

That’s all you got to say.

You have to say this to them at least  because, as I must keep reminding myself, surprisingly, people can’t read our minds or are hearts and life is short. People can go away and out of your life forever very suddenly.

Destiny

Destiny? 

There’s no such thing as destiny because destiny says that no matter what you do, it will happen anyway. That’s insane. 

God gave you free will, use it, make things happen in the future. 

You have that kind of power. 

Destiny is a lie that lazy people use as an excuse for not trying to control their lives.

Don't worry be happy

My experience is that we spend most of our worry time worrying about things that will never happen.

Bad day.

Bad day? 

Don’t worry about it.

I’m old and I can attest to this as as a fact;  in a couple of hours you won’t even remember it  because in the long run, we don’t remember days, we remember moments in the days. 

Know when to run

Know this; if some one dislikes you its because they see you as threat to some part of their life or they dislikes themselves and you represent everything they have failed to be.

In other words, they want to be you.

Just avoid these types of people.

Their easy to spot. They always seem angry and they never stop looking for the insult in every word and the conflict in every situation.

The battles these people are fighting is within themselves. Run from them. Don’t walk, run

Roosevelt was right

Teddy Roosevelt was right, believe you can and your half way there...it's all about faith.

.....I'd love to try this...well, in theory I would love to try this.

Physical attraction

Physical attractions are great, they really are , but they don’t last. Connect mentally, its rare and its sexy and it can last for ever.

Work it out

Find a way to make it work. That’s what makes a great relation; two people caring about each other enough to figure out a way to make it work. 

Talk it out. Communicate and communicate to make it work, listen to the other person and listen to understand. Don’t listen to reply. Without communication the relationship fails. 

Trust each other and trust that whatever the issue is that it will eventually work out because without trust between you there is simply no reason to continue. 

Understand that people are often unreasonable and self centered. They will occasionally forget or overlook all of the good and kind things you’ve done. That’s human nature. Forgive them. That’s how it works in the long run, forgive them. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse poor behavior, the behavior we all exhibit from time to time, but forgiveness does prevent that behavior from destroying everything there is between you.  

The bottom line is this, relationships are hard work, they are easy to start and hard to keep alive.  You both have to work at it everyday.

Know this

Know this;

You can change. You are capable of change.

You have a worth, a value. Don’t ever think you don’t.

It’s normal and sometimes its even healthy to struggle.

It’s all right to be hurt. It happen to the best of us. Give it time, time heals all things.

Just because some clown doesn’t see your value that doesn’t decrease your value.

People will treat you as you allow them to treat you.

Everything will be all right, but that doesn’t mean everything will remain the same.

The good lord loves you more in a single more than any one else will live you in an entire life time.

You have to have faith.

Let your faith in God be bigger than all of your fears combined and you will overcome.

Live in the moment

Where ever you are, be all there. Live in the moment  

The happy people of the world are constantly evaluating and then improving themselves. 

The unhappiest people are usually judging and evaluating others.   

We are shaped by our thought and not the other way around.

We become what we allow ourselves to think.

Forgive

Before you pray, forgive. It takes a second. Just say “Dear God, please forgive me my trespassers as I forgive those who trespassed against me”.

If you don’t like that wording, come up with something else but remember the process; forgive and then pray.  

Feed your faith

Feed your faith in yourself  and your doubts will starve to death. 

Feed your faith I God  and your love for others and your self-respect will grow. 

The happiness of your life depends on the quality of thoughts

The happiness of your life depends on the quality of thoughts that you allow to go through your mind so to be a new and better person you have to learn to think in a news and positive way.

Best free advice you'll ever get

                

                  Make your opportunities

Listen

Listen to your instincts.............

because they’re probably right.

........also don't drink and climb on high wires 

Being happy doesn’t mean having the best of everything

Being happy doesn’t mean having the best of everything, although having the best of everything is wonderful. When I was a boy we lived, barely survived really,  in about the worst place in town, a cobblestone, dead end street, darkened by the shadow of a massive old foundry that never closed and whose noise drowned out everything else, all day and all night with the smashing sound of enormous machines.  The river was nearby and it was badly polluted and smelled to high heavens. It left the stench of rotten eggs on our clothes and on us.  We had no toys, we lived on welfare and we wore our shoes until they literary fell off our feet.

But yet I recall those years as the best and happiest of my life because I shared it with my brothers and sisters. I was never alone.  We dreamed up more adventures in one day in that God forsaken neighborhood then Hollywood could make up in a decade. We made the best out of what we had. And that’s the key to being happy; make the best of what you have.

You know I think about those years a lot. Every now and then I go back there. The cobble stone are paved over and the factory is closed and the river runs a little cleaner these days but otherwise it’s all the same.  Vast herds of poor kids run the streets in second hand clothes. The poverty is still there, so I asked God, I said “Hey, God, why don’t you do something about this?” and God said “I did, I brought it to your attention” 

A body can be sexy

A body can be sexy and a face can be pretty or handsome but the mind, ah! the mind is beautiful. 

You reach in a point in life

You reach in a point in life when it dawns on you that the journey to understanding isn’t about becoming something, it’s really about un-becoming all the things about you and within you that don’t work, that hold you back, that lessen your light.

It dawns on you that losing those things draws you closer to becoming the person you are meant to be and then you realize that you can spend your days looking for a light in the world or you can just become a light in the world and save yourself a lot of time

How do you know you met the right one?

How do you know you met the right one? How do you know you’ve finally met the person that will fit directly into your life?

Well, for one thing you will have a sort of instant understanding of why all those others that came into your life are no longer there. 

You instantly know why all of those other relationships didn’t work out.

You’ll know why it was so important to be just be who you are, why it’s good that you didn’t change yourself to fit another persons likes.

You just suddenly get understanding of a lot of things.  

To us it’s a miracle. 

For God it’s just another day at the office.

....here look at this and smile because happy is good for you

Try to see people the people in your life the way God sees them.

Try to see people the people in your life the way God sees them. It will change everything about you because we change the world by changing the thoughts we think about the world.

Here’s another way to think about this; Do you want to see God? It’s easy. Look for God in others and eventually you will see God in your self. Kinda cool how that works out isn’t it?

You and I are children of God. Think about that. A child of God. How fantastic is that?

Look at this, organized Crime at work

When someone shows you their true colors

When someone shows you their true colors don’t try to repaint them to the tones and hues that you like.

That won’t work.

Don’t try to repaint that person in anyway because that’s not your job and the changes you make in them will be temporary at best, they won’t last.

 That doesn’t mean you give up on that person because their true colors aren’t ideal and because they have issues. None of us are ideal, all of us have issues. If you want to have friendships you’ll have to overlook a lot.

If it doesn’t improve, let go. Occasionally it will hurt to let go of some of these people because there are aspects of them that you will truly miss but but you have to weight that hurt against the hurt of holding on to them.

But consider the value of the person as well as their cost in your life.

When it hits the fan remember this; THIS TO SHALL PASS. No storm lasts forever and you’re going to be okay.  Easy, easy, easy. Relax. It’s just a bad day. That’s all it is. You’ll get thousands of more chances to make another day better.

Have courage. And by that I mean try again tomorrow. That’s one of the many things  that courage is. It isn’t always charging the barricade full ahead. Sometimes courage is just getting the stuffing kicked out of you like you did today and you quietly go back and try again tomorrow. That’s courage too. 

Or will tomorrow be more of them same?  Who the hell knows? If you’re having a series of bad days, stop and pay attention to the beat and rhythm of your life. Does the same negative thing seem to be happening over and over again?  Know this, the lesson in life will be repeated until they are learned.  Figure out where the trouble is and fix it, or at least try to fix it.  Just face the damn the problem and get it over with. Trust me on this; it’s never as bad as you think it is. Never.  Running from your problems is race you can’t win.

Remember to spend some times each day being alone, getting away from the world and shake off the negativity.  Remember that an entire ocean can’t sink the smallest boat unless it gets inside the boat. You’re spirit is like that boat. The world negativity can’t harm you unless you allow it to get inside you.

In Matthew 6:34 it  says this about tomorrow “Don’t worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will bring it’s own worries, each day has enough trouble of it own.”  And truer words have not been spoken.

But right now, the day is done, so be done with it. Listen to Matthew on that one. Jesus made him an Apostle and he’s got his own section in the bible so he must know what he’s talking about.

Smile. Relax. Ride it out. You’re tough, you can do that. It’s just a bad day, that’s all it is. It’s not a bad life, you’re not unlucky, and the world isn’t conspiring against you. It’s just a bad day and this too shall pass. 

...............and remember to smile...here, watch this, this is funny

Exactly

cause it's better than sadness

Be one of those guys

What if

It doesn't matter

Me (Right) on my wedding day with my best man, Vince Puglesi

Watkins Glenn music festival, this is where I was in 1983 (Along with 600,000 others)

This guy should be our next President

Taking a wrong turn in life isn’t a permanent condition,

Taking a wrong turn in life isn’t a permanent condition, you turn around and head back so let the life mistakes you made, once you’ve learned what you can from it, go off and die alone.  A mistake, no matter how massive it is, doesn’t define you. Let go of yesterday because yesterday let go of you a long time ago.

Every now and then stop and say this out loud “The past is over, I can’t change it. I forgive those who wronged me and I apologize to those I wronged.  And now I need to live for today and the future” Those two sentences can free you.

Conversely, don’t make the past better than it was nor should you make the present worse than it actually is and the answer to everything isn’t in the future. All that tomorrow offers is a day without any mistakes in it, yet but give it time.  The future will be less resolved then we think and the only way to predict what will happen in the future is to make it happen yourself.  It’s a new day. Here’s your goal; Be better than you were yesterday. This is the opportunity to get it right. 

Here, watch this, it's a 7 month old child hearing a sound for the first time