John William Tuohy lives in Washington DC

A few pointers on finding happiness and purpose in your life with the overall idea being to break the habit of short term happiness and replace it with sustainable happiness.

When it hits the fan remember  "And this, too, shall pass." …and it will. I assure you it will.

Pay our bills on time, maintain good health and be honest in all things. I know these aren’t always easy things to do but these are the chief worry makers in daily life if you take care of them you’ll worry less and be a happier soul.

Live within your means. Spending money you don’t have only leads to eventual unhappiness. Money will make you happy but it will add to your stress. Cover your basic needs: things like food, shelter, and clothing. But once you have enough money to be comfortable, getting more money does not make much of a difference to how happy you are. 
A number of studies of lottery winners show that after a relatively short period of time, they are not happier than they were before they won the money.

Contribute to a good cause. Either tithe to whatever church you go to or send in a few dollars to something you believe in, something that will the world a better place. You’ll feel good about yourself and it will keep you involved and connected with the world you live in.

Be kind to yourself. When something bad happens, don't beat yourself up. Instead, when you make an error, be aware of it without passing judgment. You are a perfect creation, the God Lord made you that way. See yourself the way God sees you. It’s okay to be gentle and forgiving with yourself.

Don’t keep it to yourself. If there issue, talk about it with the aim of resolving the issue. State your case in a clear, easy to understand manner.  Letting issues boil causes only causes more problems.

Travel whenever possible. It will give you a broader, realistic look at the world you live in, you’ll learn new things and have fun as well.

Pray and take time to just be quiet. It’s good for the soul.

Next time you come across a hater, run like hell and keep running until you are very far away from them.

Don’t over schedule yourself or assign yourself a pile of different ways to improve your life. Factor in the cost to your mental health. Are all these new tasks that you have given yourself worth the cost? Often we can improve outlives by doing less and giving yourself time to simply do nothing.  

Building that home environment clearly leads to happiness. You can do that by sharing a family meal four times a week is the key to happiness. The average family spends less than 12 hours a week with everyone present.

Avoid situations that lead to trauma and develop practices that support our own well-being
Stop and think about what you’re doing…….Happiness comes from good judgment.

Every now and then don’t play it safe. Take a risk on something. In a 1995 article published in Psychological Review, authors reviewed evidence that found that what people regret most is not the risks they did take, but the ones they didn’t. Regret about actions taken loses intensity, while regret over actions not taken, intensifies.

See the glass as half full.

Work to be resilient. Resilience is the ability to recover fast from adversity. Recover and go on to do great things. Having a sense of power in your life has been found to be one of the key factors in being a resilient person.  To find true happiness,  realize your personal power. 

You can have a profound effect over your destiny.

Takes criticism like a champ and take it with an ENORMOUS grain of salt.

Set small goals in order to reach bigger ones.

Understands the power of friendship and  it to work for you.

Let it go. Live in the moment. Most of our stress is generated by being too focused in the past or future. Let go of grudges. A key to being happy is to let go of grudges. Consciously drop the past.

We often cannot control the situation or circumstances that we find ourselves in, but we can always choose to control our attitude about that situation or circumstance.

Let the sun shine in. SAD (seasonal affective disorder), is a lack of sunlight which can lead to sadness and even depression. Open the blind on your window or get out and take a short, brisk walk.

Smile. Smiling can make you happy or at the least give you a happiness boost.

Eat Dark Chocolate. (over 70 percent cacao) It can make you happier. Chocolate contains polyphenols, which have been shown to have happiness boosting properties.

Breathe Consciously. Controlled breathing can lower your blood pressure and put you in a state of  calm and relaxation.

Practice gratitude and positivity.

Stay in motion as often as you can.

Get Up and Move Regularly. Low activity lifestyles have been linked with weight gain, diabetes and other health problems.

Give up social comparisons. (Keeping up with the Joneses.) It’s a race you’ll never win.

Decide to be happy. Happiness is not an accident. You chose it.

You don’t need a romantic relationship to be happy. Being in a healthy, supportive relationship does contribute to happiness, but on the same hand you can also be happy and fulfilled if your single. The expectation that having a partner will make you happy and fulfilled  may actually harm the relationship in the long-run.

Happiness does not decline with age. Contrary to popular belief, people tend to get happier with age.

Don't waste time on jealousy. Your good turn will come along as well.

Find passion in you, not in your job.

Get eight hours of sleep: Researchers say people who managed to sleep eight hours scored a 65.7 out of 100 in the study’s well-being rating system compared to 64.2 and 59.4 among those who slept seven and six hours, respectively.

Get involved in culture. "Participation in receptive and creative cultural activities was significantly associated with good health, good satisfaction with life, low anxiety and depression scores in both genders," a researchers wrote. Men saw stronger benefits from receptive, or passive, cultural activities while women more enjoyed active participation events . A study that collected data on the activities, mood and health of 50,000 adults in 
Norway found that people who participated in more cultural activities reported higher happiness levels and lower anxiety and depression.

Talk to people. Connecting with another person increases our happiness. A study that tracked the conversations of 80 people for 4 days found that, in keeping with the small-talk study, higher well-being is associated with spending less time alone and more time talking to others. Behavioral scientists gave a group of Chicago train commuters a $5 Starbucks gift card in exchange for striking up a conversation with a stranger during their ride. (While another group kept to themselves.)Those who started conversations reported a more positive experience than those who had stayed quiet—even though they had predicted they would feel happier being solitary. Another study saw similar results from giving Starbucks visitors a $5 gift card in exchange for having a "genuine interaction with the cashier."

Buy an experience not an item. Spending money on life experiences makes us happier than spending money on material things. Studies show that the happiest people are those who seek meaning as opposed to just pleasure.

Look at beauty. A study showed that purely beautiful objects (not functional) reduce negative emotions by 29%, increasing a sense of calmness and ease.

Eat more fruits and Vegetables. A 13-day study of 405 people who kept food diaries showed that people who ate more fruits and vegetables reported higher than average levels of curiosity, creativity, and positive emotions, as well as engagement, meaning, and purpose.
Accept yourself.  Believe in yourself.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Keep the bigger picture in mind.

Embrace change. Happiness means being willing to evolve. We are most alive when we expand and try new things.

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